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To be clear, a "citizen's arrest" will probably not result in an actual arrest, just a notice to appear in court and thereafter charges may or may not be filed. The cops are supposed to honor it but as we know sometimes they do their own thing. It certainly sounds like it is bad enough already...

Thank you. I am going to move when my lease is up in January. Apartment living may also just not be for me... Not sure of the next step but will figure it out when the time comes.

I still love and appreciate my first cat, Ginger (black & white!) who got me through childhood. He was the best. But I have other cats now on which I heavily rely for support and comfort. Take as much time as you need.

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You've probably tried making a citizen's arrest, I'm not sure. But that wouldn't cost you anything. I can't promise it will do anything, it is only offered as a tentative step in your path to finding more peace. But, it might help!

I think it's fair to say several of us in this group have trauma from standardized religions being forced on us. I believe in the Universe, in god, but not the god of Christianity. But, I respect that may hold different meaning for someone else and I respect others who do. A big problem I...

Next time you call the cop's, say you are making a citizen's arrest. If you can, know which code section applies first. Just a thought... They cannot be such a nuisance. Or maybe talk to a lawyer, sometimes even a strongly worded letter from a lawyer will do wonders. They already attacked one...

I performed yesterday in my dance school's student showcase, and did really well! First time: a great experience with my fellow performers who are all so supportive and fun. Lots of hype from the audience, too :) As a child and young adult, I was terrified to move my body.

It's okay :)

I think you misinterpreted my post... LOL. I do risky things. This was just a personal post and what safety means to me.

I have raised these issues with my apartment management, and the neighbors have denied it. Incidentally, a few weeks ago they claimed it was not them bc they were not home and I was able to prove they were lying because my friend had knocked on their door and then they turned the music down...

I believe in the idea of safety, I believe that it can be real for me, that it won't take long to get there, and that I can start right now. I believe that my pain is temporary, and if I let things go they will get better. I believe that life is always working out for me and for you! I...

Please know that we care, and others are suffering alongside you.

Bathroom is right next to the loud wall. I also depend on a lot on my ability to run my own schedule... and I worry I can't get a good's night sleep bc of the noise. BUT, what helps: eating my vegetables, having only 1 cup of coffee a day, yoga, dance, walks finding my own joy

You will, I did so you will too. Focus on taking tiny steps forward. Tiny, little things. And take as many breaks as you need!

I just don't know that I could get used to wearing headphones all the time. It's good to hear what others do, though. I'm really having a flashback when this has happened, I go full on panic. This is interesting, I feel that "expecting" it or not knowing when it will occur makes me...

I've thought about slipping a note in their door to tell them how much it bothers me. But then I'm scared it won't stop and I'll feel even worse because I made myself more vulnerable. This may be "living in fear," but there also may be truth to it. I do use fans and apps on my phone, already...

Anyone else have a hard time with noise & vibrations? I have a really hard time and always panic when neighbors surround sound comes through my walls. I'm at my wits end and it seems like this problem always reoccurs. My apt. management is not particularly helpful and I just feel so...

dancing on the beach yesterday

Yeah, how do you deal with hurt? My heard unequivocally tells me to let someone back in if he comes back into my life... I just don't know how I can be a person who doesn't fall into my ruts of distrust.

My dad, used to be super controlling and he himself is on the spectrum, always asks via text or email to see me, wanting me to visit. He thinks he is being clever by being non pushy. for a second then he'll ask again in a few months. I still get short of breath, worried about boundaries. I...

Physical pain (that happens naturally): it's a comfort to feel it.

We are glad you are here! So much of us can relate. I can, for one. To the abuse by family members, and how difficult it still can be to keep them at a boundary. I've started to find my own community :)

I can somewhat relate. I rarely post revealing things here because I worry about judgment and estrangement. Lately, I can't get through others' long posts, either. I don't have to absorb everyone else's diaries, though. I can just pop in and post little things. Use the forum the way it works...

Hi ggarcia007: I'll echo what others here have said. Reach out for help and we can support you here! I am so sorry this happened to you. It gets better, I promise.