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Thank you @AnnaW, it is really insightful to hear things from the other side. I really appreciate your thoughts. I completely agree and it is the advice I would give to anyone else, we all should always be as open and honest as we can be. However (isn't there always a however!) it is so hard...

Thank you @Scarlet13, I really relate to what you say. My first thought was also that this is wrong, but having thought more on it I think it is ok. She didn't make a big deal of it, it felt just like an observation. I'm hoping it will benefit me to see these reactions, that I can open out...

I think that would be really hard for me to hear, harder than her showing some emotion. I know they are saying that it doesn't mean they don't care but that bit comes a bit late, I wouldn't hear that, I would just hear the first part. All T's and all of us are different, I can't say what is...

Thank you @Nessa7, @NinjaWolf and @Suzetig. @Nessa7, I don’t know if it’s I can’t be honest with her, it is more I’m too fearful of being open. She has to ask direct questions to get information otherwise I’ll spend forever talking around things. @NinjaWolf, I think I need face face those...

It certainly felt uncomfortable and confusing, not necessarily wrong but definitely different. I think the part I struggle with is that I can’t drop the balls, I wish I could. I have to keep all the plates spinning constantly but in fear of I don’t know what, I just have to. I hope she is...

Thank you @FauxLiz, @Mytime and @Still Standing. It does make me feel really uncomfortable but I want to be mindful of pushing it away because it is uncomfortable but ultimately helpful and pushing it away as it could be harmful. I have ongoing issues with knowing how to view my experiences and...

Thank you @Marinna, @Justmehere and @UnicornSightings. I struggle and edit with a lot of what I do say so I don’t want to have to worry about her reaction as well. On the whole I don’t know what to do with emotions, mine or other peoples, it panics me. I feel her looking at me like she is...

I have just started with a new T for childhood trauma who has a bit of a different style to what I experienced in the past, she is quite direct which I am finding a little challenging. She uses words I would always avoid and despite all my minimising she is very vocal that my experiences were...

It is hard because it is so individual, to the person receiving therapy and the therapist. Some T's have a physcodynamic style which believes that many of your processes now have developed out of patterns that have been learnt in childhood. A CBT approach is much more in dealing with the...

CBT often deals more in the here and now than in the past, it will recognises the causes but its focus can be on alleviating current problematic thought cycles. If you have a trauma that you feel needs solid attention be sure you tell them that, otherwise you are going to treating the edges...

I would suggest it would be really worth going to your GP and seeing if the NHS and IAPT can provide anything more. If so far your work have paid that shouldn't limit you getting further help. Leaving therapy is a hard process, it pulls up many different and conflicting feelings. I am sorry it...

@Akhos, I have been there with the NHS, you've come to the end of the allotted, hopefully you've been able to grab something from your time with it and now off you go. I know it varies on different areas and trusts but did they leave you with any options? I was able to request a 3 month review...

Thank you for the link. The more I read about peridot the more I think I need to bathe in it! I have always felt very drawn to it but never felt I found the right piece. The pendant I bought is a small round cut stone but it feels very comfortable in my hand. I wear it alongside I pendant I...

I actually bought a peridot pendant at the weekend to wear as I have been looking at crystals to help with healing. It's meant to clear out toxic emotions, open your mind to healing and be good for increasing self esteem. When I picked up the crystal book in the shop I opened it straight onto...

Hi @Eliza, welcome to the site, it's good to have you here. I know it is very much easier said than done but can you tell them? Explain that as far as you can see the anxiety does not stem from a childhood issue and definitely feels connected to a far more recent experience. I am in therapy...

I found the eye movements difficult to keep up with and also found it hard to keep the dual focus on visually following her and concentrating on thoughts, feelings, images. We moved onto knee tapping which I did with my eyes closed which I found much more helpful. Some people find closing...

Welcome @Freemartin, you will find so much kindness and understanding here. Keep writing, keep reaching out, there is lots to learn and gain. I think so many of us are guilty of minimising and denying what we have been though. For me it has been, a continues to be a slow and difficult...

I have had to deal with a T on sick leave, so much so that I ended up being assigned with a new T who is now on holiday for a month! It is really hard and dysregulating, allow yourself to know it is ok to feel as you are. Do you have any grounding skills you could use? I have always known if...

I don't like being called by my name and I don't know why, I don't think it is any way directly related to my trauma. To me it feels too personal, I prefer to keep a bit more of a distance from myself. It can feel jarring when people refer to me directly by name, T has done it a couple of...

Mine is all through the NHS, so government funded. It has not been completely without problem but on the whole has been a great service. I am about to start again with some more EMDR.

Hi @Maci15, I'm in a similar situation as well. My T went on sick leave and it became clear they were unable to tell when she would be returning. After a break of 7 weeks I started with a new T last week. I am not sure how it is for you but the new T had read the notes that were on file...

1. No, very much not like that, very clear boundaries. 2. I wrote a thank you card at the end of a block of treatment, it felt like a way to express myself in a way I wanted to be heard, rather than the closed off person she saw in sessions. It allowed me to say more than I would have been able...

Hi @Eliza, welcome to the site. I am sorry to hear what you are going through and really applaud your strength in seeking support. I see an NHS therapist, I work in London but live in Sussex so getting the right appointment time was really vital for me because of work and my commute, for a...

I can relate to this as well. I can hold short eye contact at the beginning of the session and I think she often breaks eye contact with me as well as not to overwhelm me. If we are talking about anything related to the trauma then no I can't look at her but also long to see her expression...

It is hard to say without knowing your situation but not all T's are trained to do EMDR so the switch could well be an essential one to put you with the person who has the right skills. It will certainly take a number of sessions for you for you to get to know the new T, that is to be expected...