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Trusting yourself means honouring that you are not ready and offering yourself acceptance that, for now, this is not the best plan. You could try a different type of massage that leads up to the one you are currently in, but you would need a trusted source willing to gradually move through it...

Yes. I have a church group, totally predictable on issues of language, temperaments, topics discussed . A bit too hugging type as a group and wouldn’t know so much to not hug or be overly close. Mental health support group polar opposite. Would not hug unless ask you. Language vulgarity, topic...

Men’s cologne, beer, bacon. Bacon of all things. My daughter cooks it a lot and I avoid the kitchen, feel stressed. The cologne and beer I understand. Smell of beer makes me feel anger whereas cologne is fear and wanting to rid it from me when a male comes round wearing old spice. Its not a...

If you can’t self refer, and she won’t then someone else needs to. But, I may have read it wrong. Did you not say they won’t look at you again for some reason and you need her help to do so? If so, then yes that is a conflict as she would be in a client privilege situation of saying I know this...

I can relate. was 12yrs old when put in adult psych ward in the 70’s before being transferred to adolescent unit for a year. The parts coming up from the past need to be acknowledged anyway that you feel comfortable. Sometimes I just thank them or ask what do you need, how can I help. I often...

That’s super tough. Whenever I have said anything to my t about protecting him or concern for him, he has named it as such and let me know he was looking after himself. The times I said it though, I didnt realize I was saying a caretaking or protecting thing, but he named it as such. I would do...

My daughter who has autism saw my t for anxiety and one day after listening to the session with her and really feeling comfortable with him, I asked about him seeing me. He had to wrap up with her first in order to begin seeing me as it was a conflict. We dont talk about her ever now, if that...

Glad I asked as it lends me something else to consider. Did not know that was eft. What is with the eye blinking then? do you know?

I have a question. Shouldn't the t be open and honest when using aspects of emdr in therapy? Last two visits he would say can you find a safe place? Go to it. Blink three times. Asked if I would also tap each leg while in the safe place and continue blinking three times. I couldn't do the leg...

For me I would have to, but then on the other hand you would not see me anywhere near a massage session. right now in sessions when asked to do bilateral tapping on my legs my mind goes into refusal that, that would be touching my body and I just cant do this simple tapping thing. Now if he said...

Your new to this t so it will be all about history taking at first. Sometimes what you cant say can be written or drawn and prefaced with, I cant say these words, thoughts, parts of my history just yet but I'd like you to know they are there . Once that happens it may be a relief to hear her...

I can speak to this as I too struggle with the idea that not being here is better than being here. i have two that are in their twenties. How would they fair without me in natural death? Pretty rough for them both. If I took my life it would be world shattering for them in many respects that...

When I'm stressed like that I prioritize, post it note so that when done I tear that note up, I know which things are quick, take more time, need stamina. So basically look it all over, all of it, take a small amount of time to plan and then as much as possible stick to the plan. In addition do...

Because I do the same, walk around somewhere far from present, dissociative, not living, when I have a time of living I notice, remark to it, now that, that was living. Im doing this because its not as familiar as dissociating and its helpful to get a sense of living. I hate the look around name...

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Believes me. Just wants me to understand its not currently there, but I can see it so when its happening, to me , it is currently there.

I'm not really managing. Too many flashbacks. Psychologist says they are not real as in not really there but i never understand how the hell taht can be true when i see them

I would take a break as long as I knew I wouldn't have to wait too long to get in if I really needed to. that would be mys safety net.

Can't say which it is. For. Me if I was feeling that way it would be a memory unidentifiable except, i did travel a lot as a kid because I was institutionalized and they sent you home by train on weekends. My dad had a bad habit of not leaving the house in enough time for me to get to the train...

I don't care much for our annual church Christmas party and have opted out year after year now for awhile. It is really triggering and no alcohol involved. I've learned along the way that i dont have to say anything. I just stay neutral or quite about it if its being talked about, most dont know...

Whenever there is a lot there, it gets jammed up. I got a really strong sense from what you wrote that you’ve done a lot of the beginning stuff, like create safety, learn some regulation skills and a good connection with the t. Be patient. Keep building the surrounding skills, because once the...

I have no clue what we talked about back then either. I was in 8th grade at the time. All I remember is being asked to focus on a spot on the ceiling, I believe it was in regards to calming down somehow. Otherwise no, I dont know much about what we said to each other. I think though I do recall...

I think the aim in grounding is to use the bodies natural five senses to bring you back into the body. When upset or slightly dissociative the mind isnt always connecting to the body and is off in either flight, fight, fawn or freeze and all of those situations dont help you pay attention to...

My response before you delete is this. My psychologist saved ten am every other Friday in his diary since day one of seeing him the past five years. I dont miss and neither does he. On the occasion it lands on a holiday weekend I have to wait 4 weeks. Im in the spot, haven’t left it, haven’t...

I dont know, but I’m with you on the stuff breaking down having to fix it without freaking out. I dont actually freak out but I first avoid, then become desperate, then make the phone call to get a service guy out, then panic for hours before they come. I’m currently watching the water fill in...