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Try changing the focus to asking others to help, say from church, moms friends, agencies that send volunteer visitors. This will give you support. If your sibling will buy bulk groceries once a month or pay a bill that would be great, but set it up so it is doable. More effort into making life...

Whenever I get like this it is because I am distracted somewhere in my thinking, so I have to get more mindful of what I am actually doing. In a way I pause, reflect that I am missing things and remind myself to slow it down, pay attention, check my work. Once I start doing that I improve...

It is great that you have discovered the age because now you can talk that language, use resources to help create safety within. Create safe place inside, let them see what you are doing now, name the date time place. They don’t have to believe it is what it is, but reminders help, calendars...

Spend time either talking to or writing to the part and assure them that you got this and to step back and let you handle it. Tell the part the ways you are going to be handling it, that they are new but to watch and see not jump in. Also build trust with the part so that you can say trust me, I...

I wonder if you can find a really good trauma therapist who could help you process the difficult parts of the trauma that are stuck in memory. It isn’t something that you just get past, you need help.EMDR therapy is a good option if you could find a qualified therapist.

One thing that I added to my parenting tool kit was to read up on the development of whatever age my children were. It helped to know what to expect from them and to encourage that growth. It helped lessen the triggers as I was able to step back and say oh, they are doing that because they are...

I challenge you to take this opportunity to do something different in your thinking to cultivate a new mindset that will serve you well in life. It may be something like instead of this, I will do that. When it looks like the outcome may be this or that I will........wait and see, or tackle one...

I stand with you on this. Same thing happens. I try to write as soon as I get back from my appointment and leave it there. It usually takes about three days before I am settled a bit, if not I keep writing. I sleep a little extra, but mostly if trauma is still coming at me I tell it not now. It...

Always be as honest as you can. My moms birthday and Father’s Day always joined up too and it caused issues yearly. Everyone grieves differently so not wanting to be in a family gathering is part of your process and only you can honor it. Call your dad today and have the Father’s Day chat with...

I’ve done far far far worse. I was a child too. I’m still trying to understand why if a child it is innocent and forgivable.

Mine like to be on the same page too. I was offered this but the other party never contacted my t so it was a lot of worry for nothing. I do not know why we worry about this. Basically one therapist reads what the other therapists is or was doing and decides dfor themselves what to take from it...

Tragic. I hope they help you sort this out enough to be able to live elsewhere.

Well I personally do not get more aggressive, quieter actually...

It is actually a great opener. He can’t change his name, but he can help in ways you are yet to learn. It will also show you a great deal of what he is like as a therapist, based on his response, which would likely be caring.

I liked it when my t said to me regarding fear, that it rises up settles down, comes back, settles again. Once I started to recognize the truth that it wasnt actually with me full time I was able to start staying with it, working with it. My anxiety is the same. I also recognize due to...

It would be good for him to know, otherwise he won’t know where all the other signals, stressors , anxieties are coming from. I otherwise have no clue how you would find out what he looks like, in advance of the appointment or how else to alleviate the anxiety until then.

Over and over the underwriting in what you seem to be saying is, she isn’t for you. She wouldn’t be for me either and hence the let down and disappointment which would lead to depression. however that being said, paint a little at home and keep looking for the right person, right area, and...

Okay but what do you make of the opposite construct that we should love ourselves? I find that to be a very unnatural thing to do as well.

Well hit it quick and short with, I’m confused what does it mean when I call you back as you requested and it goes to vm. She then may apologize give the answer and set the boundary up so that she can actually do it, without moving it and freaking you out.

She is 23 now

I think we know ourselves, we know our trauma and how it affects us. That in itself should be enough. Docs sometimes add a dx when it isn’t quite there because the services that are available for that dx are more accessible then for others. This happens a lot with the ddnos subtypes. Would I...

If the t used my name, I would be surprised. Seems to always be my first response when anyone uses it. It doesn’t connect well with me so it comes off as me questioning inside who they mean, or who they are talking to, then what am I supposed to do next acknowledge that they are talking to me...

I have this reaction in daily life, a lot. I don’t think my t calls me anything.

The two most natural remedies for me were mindfulness of breathing techniques that came with the spire stone. Its not unlike the trackers people wear for walking. This stone clips on the waste band of clothing and is on my ipad. It vibrates when my breathing has been tense for two minutes and...

I’m having trouble understanding what you are saying Ronin. Yes, there was much in the hospital that was ptsd related, as what came before it gave me no resources to cope with what I observed, went through, and how I was treated. It compounded it but would not have been the original source of cptsd.