At Residential

[Deleted member 48341]

So I’m at residential right now and I wanted to share

I can’t go back home to my mom. She touches me inappropriately when I’m vulnerable and threatens to take away everything/everyone and hurt me when I draw boundaries and say no. I can’t go back home!!!!!! I love being in the hospital though everyone is so nice and I finally feel safe.

I think my aunt touched me sexually in forth grade and she might of got her boyfriend to hurt me but I haven’t put all of the pieces together yet so I can’t say for sure.

 

[Teamwork]

Tragic. I hope they help you sort this out enough to be able to live elsewhere.

 

[EveHarrington]

Will they help you with aftercare and a new place to live? :hug:

 

[MrMoonlight]

Standing up for yourself as you are is a great step forward. You are so freaking strong. So glad you are feeling safe and cared for right now.

 

[Sideways]

She touches me inappropriately when I’m vulnerable and threatens to take away everything/everyone and hurt me when I draw boundaries and say no. I can’t go back home!!!!!!

In your previous 2 threads, you described your mum as being ‘emotionally absent’. Things can go pretty hectic during inpatient stays, but this seems to be a huge swing. Do you feel like exploring that a bit more might be helpful?

You’re 22 if I have that right? Maybe now is a great time to be looking for greater independence:)

 

[Deleted member 48341]

In your previous 2 threads, you described your mum as being ‘emotionally absent’. Things can go pretty hectic during inpatient stays, but this seems to be a huge swing. Do you feel like exploring that a bit more might be helpful?

You’re 22 if I have that right? Maybe now is a great time to be looking for greater independence:)

I’ve been inpatient for a while now and I’m starting to realize that what my mom does to me is wrong. I thought it was normal.

 

[Sideways]

How much longer are you likely to be an inpatient? Is it long enough to look at alternative options for housing once you discharge?

ETA It’s hard to know from your posts the kind of support you need at this point. It’s totally okay that you don’t want to elaborate on the issues between you and your mum - it sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now.

But on the info you’ve provided, it sounds like having secure housing is important. It’s one of our basic needs, and absolutely something we need in order to get on with our recovery.

That changes if our housing situation is less than perfect. For example, if I live with someone, and have a major crisis going on with my mental health? Staying put at home makes sense. If the person I’m living with makes life uncomfortable (for example, if they slap me on the arse every time I walk past - that’s not okay), I might consider moving. But if my health is absolutely dire? I might wait out moving till I’m a bit more stable.

On the hand, if my housemate has put a knife to my throat on a few occasions (also not okay), moving becomes much more of a priority. Even if my health is dire and I’m really unstable.

So, with regards to your mum: I absolutely think independence is something you should be looking forward to as a near-term goal. It’s hard to know how urgent that is without any information.

As I said, it’s okay not to share information here. Maybe these are issues you could look at with your therapy team.