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That is great I love how music can be such great therapy. Laurie

Hello Even Stronger Now :> It sounds like you are on the right track in your recovery so congrats on that. I was introduced to the practice of rejoicing and I found that has helped me. When I do something right even if it is a tiny thing, I take a moment to rejoice in it. "Yay for me!" I...

Hello Joseph - First of all I rejoice at the fact that you have come here. As a PTSD sufferer myself, and having been in relationships, I don't think that it would be unreasonable for you to meet each other half way - meaning that you learn about how to work with her issues of OCD and PTSD...

What everyone has said is really great and incredible food for thought. What you said above Justmeinhere gets me to think about the fears that drive us because of our PTSD. Not too terribly long ago, I realized that about 85% of every choice I have made in my life is fear-based. But what is...

Hi there I tend to move toward things that are scary and I think that it is because I need to feel in control and if I can approach a fearful situation and master it, I am in control and therefore not a victim of my fear but for one brief moment I am master of it. Does that make sense Namaste...

I understand. Once things like this happen, it is so hard to feel safe - for me that is the part of the fight or flight that is at the heart of PTSD. For me, I am just starting after a bunch of years to get my mind to be able to convince my heart that the fear that wells up making me feel...

Hey there Notsowild, The light is still in there. Never you fear. It is inside you. It might be buried under all the symptoms and it might be like a turtle inside its shell, but it is there. Nothing can take that away from you. What worked for me was to talk to myself and remind myself there...

Hi Kstg - Thanks for letting us know what you are going through. Many prayers for you. It seemed like the guy took everything from you almost but you still do have a good heart. And it will not stay this way forever - just be being here you are already getting better. Namaste - Laurie

Hi there - Welcome. It is really hard to deal with things that you think are going to last that don't last - at least for me it is. Don't know if that is what you are going through or not but for me it was hard. Hope you find peace - Namaste - Laurie

Hi John, PTSD can be hard to deal with because you are dealing with an unseen enemy and for me, having put a few boyfriends through it myself, it can also be very unpredictable as to when it will arise. But it is great that she is finally seeking help for it and I hope that it works out for...

Hi there Kai - Well first congratulations for being as brave as you are first to put on the front to make it through the traumas and now to have the courage to deal with them. I know what you mean about fear - it can really debilitate you. I have been working on letting go of my fear in the...

Yeah - Invalidation was big with my folks too - That has been a hard one for me to get over - I still react intensely when I feel I am being invalidated. Working on that one. My father also had sleep apnea - I do think it was part of why he was so angry all the time - I know once he started on...

Hello Sally Sue - Glad you are feeling better - It is great to have this community who is here for us when we need it. Glad too that what I said was able to help you understand about not being able to find a bad person :happy: It was a great lesson when I learned it. Keep on going toward...

Hey there Sally Sue - For me what helps is working on remembering that I am changing moment by moment. It is easy to label ourselves one way or another. Like a victim or a bad person or a depressed person. And then we believe those labels to be real. So real that we spend the rest of our...

Hello Viosinger :> Yep - My father was a rageaholic alcoholic and never admitted to his drinking until he was on his deathbed. As my cousin often says "Denial is not just a river in Egypt" It is a common trait in folks who drink My father too also did the litany of things they did for me...

Hi Carolina - What Solara said is good advice. What he probably needs more than anything right now is a friend who will be there for him. It is possible he is going through PTSD. It is also possible that dealing with a head trauma is hard for him as well. I know from personal experience...

Hi Trevor - I hope you find someone. Do you have a facebook account? I know I have gotten lots of help even from folks in other countries from Facebook - I know it is kind of old school now but it has worked for me. Namaste - Laurie

No problem WillowMarie - If you have any questions or thoughts about it just sing out. Here is a video that might give you more insight. I am not crazy about the very end of it but I like 99 percent of what he says. His name is B. Allan Wallace and if you check up on his credentials he is...

Hi rh, I am so sorry you had to go through that. Being brave in the face of those who abused you is important that is true. But for you as well, I think it is all right to remember to forgive and to love yourself for the scary things that happen surrounding this issue. One can find courage...

Hi WillowMarie - There are a bunch of different types of meditation. There are the ones like you heard about where you chant a mantra that you are given and that works well for some people. I have not tried that one. The one I am talking about is usually called mindfulness meditation. Most...

Hi there - Sounds like you are getting better. That is great Also sounds like there are two things happening - there are the PTSD episodes and then there is the underlying fear or anxiety. Is that right? I never actually thought of that before but that is the way it is for me too. There are...

It often feels like it gets darker before it gets light. Remember to keep hold of the touchstone of beauty that is the real you Sending you blessings Laurie

Hey Jamey, You are truly brave and appreciate your service as a soldier. Although I did not serve in the service, I have PTSD. I cannot imagine and do not presume to know what you are going through but I do know my PTSD comes from the inability to flee a frightening situation over the course...

Hey Bill - I wonder if you tried inviting your panic attack to tea - Instead of being afraid of the monster in the closet what about saying "Hello Monster. I see you there. Why don't you sit down and we can have a nice chat. You know, you don't have to attack me if you don't want to...."...

Hi WillowMarie To answer your question, I found I was able to start trusting my intuition again when I started to be able to rely on my inner wisdom again. And for me, that happened after I started meditating regularly. I found that my meditation helped me be able to take a step back from my...