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Yeah, over three years after getting out of an abusive relationship and I felt ready again. He's a nice guy that i've been seeing for the last six weeks. It didn't seem too soon because he was the right guy. It went fantastically. None of the things I thought would cause a flashback did. He ran...

Have a good cry. Have a good rant. Then try to look after yourself.

I agree with Nam, you don't go back to what you was. That's not a bad thing though. Because the person that you can become can be a lot stronger, a lot more open and yet a lot better at setting boundaries and also a lot more empathic. You have seen the worst in people but it can make you...

So, the last few months I have been on this site writing quite regularly about what's going on in my life and seeking advice and guidance. I have had the wonderful experience of gaining insite from people who actually understand my position and hopefully I have also been able to give advise to...

Thank you for your replies. I am happy to say that the problem has been resolved. All the things I thought that would worry me such as his weight ontop of me didn't actually trigger a flashback as I thought. We had a very passionate and fun few hours and he respect my boundaries and made me up...

So, the brief history (and I've posted on here about these issues before) is that I was in an abusive relationship and was raped. It's been three and a half years and I've not had a relationship in that time. Though I did muck around a little with an old friend when drunk once. Now, i've met a...

Yeah, so I am having a stressed day because I am visiting the parents and I can't stand that for much and I've reached my breaking point. I've got a friend and she lives between my parents and my current house and I told her a week before traveliing when I would be around and when i'd be able...

Thanks for your support guys, I've asked that I can have a list of questions I will be asked first and then I can write the answers as I have such a lot of trouble talking. But yes. I'm going to do this. I need to be able to stand up for myself even if they are a big company, I've had enough of...

Has anybody ever been to a grievance for discrimination against disability. I'm really nervous. I disassociate when I get called into a meeting. I'm starting to wish I hadn't done this. Has anybody ever been through this?

Hi Avril, count me in. Especially as you're up in my home county ;-P I graduated from Bangor Psychology department a few years ago. Have fun with it.

Well, I get that I've not put much info in but thanks for all the great advice guys. I've not had sex in four years, not since the rapes. But I think I am ready now. He's a nice guys and I need this part of myself back. I am wondering about triggers though, I seriously cannot see semen without...

Oh, really sorry guys. That was unclear. I was raped. That's what I don't want to tell him.

So, I like this guy but we've only just started going out. I'm not sure if I want this to be a serious relationship but the one thing that keeps playing on my mind is how much I want to reclaim my sex life. I've had enough of this being a big thing and yes I will keep my boundaries and keep...

I wish I had the insight and bravery to walk out of a situation when I know that it's damaging me. Good on you. And best of luck in finding somewhere with a a healthier atmosphere.

Well done Laurie, wishing you all the best on making these positive steps forwards.

I'm really struggling with the fact that I'm about to lose my job. I'm refusing to work in a situation which causes me triggers without a safety plan put in place so that if I have a flashback I can remove myself from the area to deal with it. But work won't allow me to do this. I'm signed off...

I just finished! I get to call myself a novelist now!

Well, why don't you take those 9 sessions as you don't even know if proper EMDR is for you and then at least you'll know if you're going down the right pathway or not. To answer my T changed the pace and directions in which she was moving her fingers which actually worked to well, I got a sudden...

Yeah, I have considered this myself at times but knowing how powerful a tool EMDR is I wouldn't dare doing it on my own. I don't actually think anything terrible would happen but in my EMDR sessions I have ended up vomiting and having a lot of trouble with stopping breathing and I just need...

My friend has recently been dealing with cancer and I recommended therapy for her because I could see PTSD in her, not because of the cancer but before this and it was only because of the cancer that she started receiving help for past traumas. As for not knowing what you should be doing for...

Guys, seriously thanks for your support I know that it's going to help me through writing these last few chapters. @sun seeker , nope not read that one thought it has been on my reading list forever. @Nam , I am going to look at getting it published. I actually have another novel half finished...

Thanks for the support.

I just want to share this, I started writing a novel about a man recovering from rape and starting a healthy relationship. It's a bit more complicated than that of course but that's how it starts. All happy endings. Anyway, a few months ago I told myself enough is enough and I gave myself till...

I have considered it but that would get me into trouble. I reported them to the university but they were a bit usless. So i'm just keeping sane until I move out.

They're at it again! For god's sake. I'm so happy to be moving.