Really Struggling

[Frogs88]

I'm really struggling with the fact that I'm about to lose my job. I'm refusing to work in a situation which causes me triggers without a safety plan put in place so that if I have a flashback I can remove myself from the area to deal with it. But work won't allow me to do this. I'm signed off ill for the last few weeks but I have received a letter saying that I will have to resume duties or they will fire me. I know that I have three options, to put myself in a situation which causes me flashbacks and just hope for the best, to quit (if I quit I can't claim unemployment whilst looking for a new job) or to wait to be fired (which I would have to write on just about every application form for the rest of my life). I can't figure out which of those is the best option.

I have been making such good progress in the rest of my life, I'm in the process of moving out of a bad housing situation, I finished a novel I was writing, I went on a date,I am applying for other jobs, all these things are positive and yet I still spend half the time feeling like I am just fighting this battle there's no way of winning. And all I see is a long history of just struggling to survive with no moments where I'm allowed a break and for things to just be nice and okay and safe and I am just soo tired and brought down by that.

 

[Friday]

There are some reasons for being fired that HR just nods & checks off as "reasonable".

Change in Management & Consolidating employees to a different location? Is one of those. Well, are 2 of those, actually. Every time management shifts, a few people get fired. Ditto every time the job site shifts. HR is smart enough to know most of those being fired are smart enough to get fired (aka has the self control not to quit out of pique, and lose benefits). As long as you don't launch into vitriol or a sob story about it, but keep it very straight forward and understated? They'll look at your time in, not reason for leaving.

Always better if you can have a new job lined up, but not end of the world if you don't.

 

[scout86]

Do you have enough savings that you can afford to quit without derailing your other plans?

From what I remember about your situation, it had been decided that they needed to accommodate you because you qualify as disabled, Then they decided that accommodating you was inconvenient. In this country, a chat with a lawyer or an advocacy group might be in order.

It sounds like they probably want you to quit. It sounds like it's a bad place for you to work anyway. Maybe there's some kind of middle ground that will be better for you and them, but bringing some sort of advocate along for the conversation seems like it might help.

Always better if you can have a new job lined up, but not end of the world if you don't

Totally!