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That sounds super stressful. There are wiser minds here who may have practical advise about your meeting with your boss. In the meantime, how can you take care of yourself? Would it help you to write some scripts down so you have some possible, planned things to say to your boss?

I'm really not trying to be difficult, but what about mind over matter? Isn't that a thing? This probably proves that I'm a lousy person but I'd think it. Have thought it. I wouldn't say it, but I do sometimes think people need to try to cope and make the best of their situation when their are...

Hmm... I've integrated some parts. It was definitely an adjustment. For me, the swirl and struggle was bigger just before it happened. Change is hard and scary and there was a lot of resistance at first from other insiders. I definitely felt different but I still felt like me too. Hmm... it's...

How I feel physically should not impact my mood. I am pretty sure this is a cognitive distortion. Except already I'm getting all tangled up. On the one hand, if you are in a lot of pain, sick or exhausted sure that has an impact on you. Except some how I feel like what you are supposed to do, is...

I agree with what all the others have said. What you experienced was abuse. And I am very sorry it has happened to you. I am glad you are starting therapy. It is going to take time to process and heal. One of the hardest things to grapple with is accepting that you were a child and your actions...

Low on words for the moment but I can very much relate. I struggle with resting enough, but it really can help. It's so hard to live with chronic pain and limitations on what you can do.

Yes. You do. You have lived through terrible things. You've done what you learned and needed to, to survive. You deserve care and connection. This is very clear from your posts. And here, at this forum you've been very caring and supportive. As others have said, it is human connection and it...

I'm also curious why you wouldn't print out the threads here and show them to your therapist. Or take parts of them and take them to her. It's not an unusual thing for clients to do. And what you've said is your experience and as a therapist she should be able to help you process it. Have you...

So, my history is similar to yours. I don't know when it moved from grooming to abuse, from my dad, but I know even as a toddler I was sexualized. And he continued to sexualize and harass me into adulthood. I read a lot of erotic literature and eventually moved to porn and then found online...

That's fantastic. Thanks to all who donated

I needed these today. Thanks. @Freddyt, you are a king at the dad jokes

I know I disappeared from this thread. Life got in the way. I definitely appreciated everyone's replies. I've decided I am not going to forgive the dad. That actually gives me peace and allows me to let go of some stuff. Forgiveness is too much like condoning what happened. I don't. It was not...

Welcome, this is a great place. Folks can be amazingly supportive. You can find people here who have experience your trauma even when it's unique. And they are honest. That means sometimes blunt and will say things you may not want to hear but will be beneficial if you can take it on board. And...

Your posts give me lots of feelings. Some I can't really access right now. Oh this. Yeah. One of my parts (I have DID) spent a lot of time trying to convince my T of this. And it's not as huge a factor in my life, but I still believe it on some level. And I understand it's therapists job to...

@somerandomguy I am so sorry for your loss. It's incredibly hard to lose a furry family member. It is clear you loved Ferdinand very much and took good care of him

Giving my dog some pats and scritches

Good timing to read (reread) your posts.. And yesterday was a lower pain day for a change, so I did more stuff. I even got hyper mutt out for an actual walk out in nature (had to take rest breaks but we did it). Woke up really sore today. Also haven't slept well at all this week. Apparently that...

I appreciate all your replies. I'm off work. And my mood has been super low. I don't get it. I feel like I should be feeling more positive now that I'm not pushing through work. Instead I feel unmotivated and down. I haven't had any leave/disability pay approved. I have to jump through hoops...

Thank you all. So I did call the doctor this morning and left a message. They reached back out and do think I should take a medical leave. I thought I'd feel relieved but I just sort of feel like a failure. I don't know. I still haven't talked to my manager. Left her a message. I don't think it...

Nope. Only if they are going under anesthesia.

I work at veterinary clinic. We have people sign in electronically but there is an option to paper sign. And while the vast majority of people don't read, don't think about what they are signing, I have had clients who did and one client who would not agree to everything that she was signing. We...

I guess maybe this is an accountability thread? The short summary for those that don't know. I've had chronic back issues for years. Had one surgery. Last October I hurt my back again. Tried everything and conclusion was I need a spinal fusion. That got delayed because of covid. It is about 3...

I was just talking to my therapist about this. I have struggled so much for years with believing myself. I believe much more than I used to, but there are things I still doubt. It's a process. The flashbacks come from somewhere. There's a reason they are happening. It's funny, I have no trouble...

I can relate. And that's a lot of hard things to deal with. You matter. You mattered then and you matter now. I am sorry your mom couldn't give you what you need.

I would definitely talk to her about it, if you're up to it. It does feel off to me. I would be uncomfortable if that was happening in my therapy sessions. And a friend (who has mental health issues) have had a conversation that's continued over the years about how unhelfpful "everyone...