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Sorry it took me so long to get back here. Partly I needed time to think and process and partly I got sick and that sucked away my energy :P I understand why so many of you are saying move. I have to be honest, part of me is angry over that. I shouldn't have to move to be who I am. And if...

I could use both practical advice and support I guess. (sorry for asking). The brief summary - I'm a transgender man. I moved to Missouri about 5 weeks ago from a much more liberal state. I knew it was a risk, but the town I moved to is a pretty liberal town. And I have moved in with my...

IT's really hard when we get hurt. To move forward you need to separate what is about your relationship with your husband and what is your PTSD. The PTSD will magnify and distort what happened.

I am glad you were able to make progress. It's a long journey but it really does get better.

Welcome to the forum. I hope you find a lot of support. I am also a transman. There's other trans folk here too. Arousal relating to incest is not at all uncommon. Keep reading and you will find a lot of folks here have similar experiences. There are also quite a few people with issues with...

I am so sorry that your cat died. Guilt is a normal part of grieving and one of the important things to remember is guilt shows how much you care. You would probably feel horribly guilty if you didn't bring her in and she died. It is not necessarily an indicator that you did anything wrong. A...

You've been given some good advice. Talk about it here and with your therapist. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings that come up. Give yourself time to mourn the relationship. It's hard but can often lead to better things

Hi and welcome @Ecdysis. The drive went better than we expected. It was long and the first few days when Tat and I were really tired were hard but as far as the pets and traffic/roads/weather went, it was smooth sailing. At some point Tat and I had a really deep talk about stuff. It was hard...

For those of you that suggested making it fun. Thanks. My boyfriend, Tat, and I had already talked some about that. Last night I told him we are going to do something silly each night we stop. We also talked about once I get there. We already agreed I get a space that's going to be my library...

I also have a hard time talking about it, especially when I am serious. I dance around the subject. My mom didn't threaten suicide but she did talk a lot about her mental health issues and use it as a way to control others. I have a big hang up on that. I don't want to manipulate others. I am...

In 6 weeks I will be driving across country, with my animals, a U-haul trailer and my boyfriend. I will be moving into his house. (Need to start getting used to saying our house). It will be the first time I've ever lived with a romantic partner.I've also started back to school and will be...

f*cking stupid weather. f*ck this.

Thank you all. I think acknowledging it, here and with him has helped a lot. I think this would help both of us. Because he definitely goes quiet when he's having a rough time. And I know that. But without him communicating that he's just taking time for himself, I can start to get super...

I'm sorry you are struggling. December is my most triggering time so I can relate. It's especially hard, I think, because December is hyped up with holiday stuff in the western world so it's like this constant reminder of when it is. It's been much longer between my traumas and this December...

I checked yes, at least once because to my memory only one was confirmed.

Thank you Arfie. IT's been a bit since I saw my T but I have a session tomorrow. I have a lot to talk about. I should probably try to be here a bit more too, as symptomatic as I am right now.

I'm not sure how to phrase my question. And I'm not even exactly sure what I'm asking? I know I am symptomatic right now. I know that's affecting how I interpret things in my relationship with my partner, Tat. Tat is also really stressed right now. Honestly we both have way too much life stuff...

You're in a very difficult situation. All that stress is going to make it hard to cope, even if you didn't have PTSD. Feeling like giving up can be a natural place to go, when everything feels too much. It sounds like breaking things into very small parts and working on stability is what you...

I am very sorry to hear of Pencil's passing. It's very hard to lose someone you are close to. My thoughts are with you.

It does seem like you have a lot to unpack. Do you have a therapist? It would definitely be worth working on this with your therapist. That's a good question. Can you break down how it would be betraying yourself? How it wouldn't be betraying yoursef? I understand wanting intimacy, but it...

So, there's a fire about 13 miles (21 km) from my house. Thanks to geography, the firefighters and the winds dying down my house shouldn't be in danger. Anyway, a bunch of us locals are creating a bulletin board for the firefighters and other responders. I'm not crafty and am super broke right...

to the morons complaining about how this fire wasn't put out in september. Have you looked at a fire map and seen how many fires there are in this region? How many of those fires are threatening structures? This fire was less than 6 acres in a very remote and rugged fire. I live here too. I'm...

Hadn't heard the phrase but have experienced this both from the general public and a school counselor.

I'm sorry you are going through that. I have always felt like it's harder to deal with, in some ways, when it comes after a break. I hope you can be gentle with yourself and practice self-care and coping skills.

Welcome. This is a great place. Feel free to share more of your story when you are ready or just read along. People here are caring and honest and you can gain a lot by being here.