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Are you in therapy? You need to be. You need to work on your issues. That should come before you get back in a relationship with her or anyone. Learn how to have healthy boundaries. Learn how to manage your emotions better. Don't focus on her trauma. Focus on what's going on with you. Good...

I am glad you had a good supportive chat today with the person from that group. You are allowed to feel what you feel. The feelings are yours. It's hard but try not to judge your feelings

Thanks @Freddyt I appreciate the advice. My dog is no good at dog parks. He gets overstimulated and can be a bit aggressive. And off leash areas I have to walk to because he won't leave my side. But it does remind me I can set up a doggy play date for him Are you ok @Defaultxlove

Note to self look at how quickly the disappointment/frustration/etc turned into self-hate. That's what we need to work on. I feel like he said to call his PA/nurse. I almost asked him to clarify that but I didn't. And now I'm all mad at myself because I didn't. And because I think it *might* be...

Yes, I think you are right @StillPen. Ended up watching a movie with my boyfriend last night which helped Exactly this. Sorry you had to have your eye ennucleated. // Spinning out a bit. Got the MRI scheduled for next Monday. Am excited it's that soon. Called to schedule the next appointment...

Had my doctor appointment. I like my surgeon and he explained things well. Yes, I will be getting surgery but the type and when is still unknown. He wants me to do another MRI this time with dye. And then there will be another appointment with him where we will do x-rays again (standing up) and...

Appointment is tomorrow. I should (yes, more shoulds) come up with a list of questions but my brain just keeps skittering away Oh. This is super helpful and kind of big. I think there's layers in there that I need to dig into when I can think. My brain sort of went "Aha! That's what I've been...

@Skywatcher The way I'm reading it, he thinks it was the 15 year old he was sitting next to. // Ok, what you did isn't good. You know that. You are doing what you need to do, in working at getting sober and working through things here. Are you in therapy, because that would be important too. I...

This is interesting work you are doing. It's something T has been trying to get me to work on. I'd add in fear. I think that's a big one.

I really feel like I should be managing this better. I have had surgery before. So I know what to expect (in a general sort of way) and don't need to be freaking out. I'm frustrated with myself. I found out that the intermittent leave I am currently on only got approved for a total of 4 hours...

Thank you everyone. Sorry I don't have the energy to reply to everyone individually. My original appointment with the surgeon was a few weeks out but things have maybe gotten bad. So, I actually called to see if I could get in sooner and will be seeing the surgeon next Wednesday. And I reached...

I understand how hard it is to have boundaries. My mother was a lot like that. As everyone else has said you are not responsible for her. And it's hard because setting boundaries may mean seeing her struggle or flounder. At the same time, if you don't set boundaries she will not get well. If she...

It can be really hard to maintain relationships when you are struggling. And it's easy to fall into the trap of believing the negative thoughts about yourself. Right *now* it feels like you've lost all your friends and can't communicate. But things can and will change. Try to be gentle with...

I guess it's time for me to probably start a thread. I have had back problems for decades. Had one back surgery already. In October my back went out. And things were bad. Got an MRI which showed a herniated disc, two compressed nerves and some scar tissue. Been doing non-invasive stuff like PT...

It doesn't matter if you are big or tiny, strong or weak, being hit is abuse and not ok. And it doesn't matter if she has PTSD. It's still abuse. And unfortunately, men all too often don't get taken seriously in this situation which just adds to the trauma. I am really sorry you are going...

It sounds like you're having a really hard time. I can relate. Sometimes all we can do is slog through. Sometimes keeping the connection with your therapist and here and trying to trust what they say is doing the work we need to do. Our thoughts can lie to us so powerfully. I hope you can ride...

For me the answer is both. Right now, my pain is way up there. I'm not about to get in a dissociated head space in the moment. Well, not able to stay there, so I'm finding distractions to get absorbed in. (Video games that don't require a ton of thought, because I can't think, but keep my...

Have had chronic back and pain issues off and on for a couple decades (or longer?). And in October injured my back. Was in significant pain. It was finally starting to get better and I was back to work full time (although not full duty) and now i'm going backwards. Like you, it's almost...

I had to end a lot of relationships and form healthier relationships because I was the caretaker. I also had to learn to form healthier boundaries. And having said that, there are still times like now where I need to withdraw some and practice self-care

I switched. Was a park ranger (sort of) that got promoted into more of a management job. Was in that park service type field for 20+ years. Was briefly a grocery store manager while I tried to get my pet sitting business going. Discovered I didn't much like the scurry of pet sitting and have...

Do you have a therapist? If you do, definitely talk to them about the diagnosis. If not, it might be worth pursuing As far as the car bump goes, have you heard of the PTSD cup theory. You might take a look at this article. Basically any stress can add up and when there's enough you can be...

Could he have meant finished for that session? I have run through things many times and need to run through them many more

I am sorry to hear about your grandma and how much you are struggling. Hmm... I am trans and homosexual and have found this place to be plenty supportive. I read the post you felt was discrimination. I am sorry it felt that way. I didn't read it in the same way. The poster stated that they...

I don't remember being angry. I took a similar path to Sideways and decided I was crazy. I also got super unregulated and was trying to deal with suddenly having my insiders wanting to be heard. I think I also felt some relief because my brain made a bit more sense. I have no plans to integrate...

Adding in, and saying you're just repeating what you heard and you don't think that is bullshit. At the least you were trying to stir shit up. Bah