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In my opinion, you have already moved on with your life, and seem to be in a happier and healthier place. If he chooses to continue his negative thinking, you have no power over his decision. To me it sounds as if you have tried to make ammends for your past with him. If he will not accept...

I agree with intothelight's post. I often get triggered with the Star of David symbol. My rapist wore a satanic symbol around his neck the night of the attack. He also, after the rape, tried to show me his driver's license because he said he wanted to get arrested. Of course I was in shock...

Great news Deb...just wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. Even though my perps never got any convictions, I feel like justice does work. IMHO, he deserves a whole lot more, but I'm sure that will be taken care of in the afterlife. May you and your daughters find peace and serenity...

I have tried to use a balance of empathy and "care-fronting". That's when you say "when you say this, I feel" or, "when you do this I feel". My therapist said that it allows the person your talking to a chance to see feelings and not just data. People tend to get defensive when "told" what...

The pain and emptiness of the loss, I know, can be overwhelming. My love for horses is immense. They are such noble and intelligent creatures with a soul much larger than many, many humans I know. I'm sorry for your loss. Just in case you aren't familiar with "Rainbow Bridge", I'de like to...

Doesn't matter if it's the first or fifteenth...starting over SUC*S!!!!! Don't you have a program to help in times of natural disaster? If not, wouldn't Australia have something to contact to get help!! You shouldn't be so remote that you can't get help flown in or trucked in.. Do you think...

Hugs and prayers to you also. So sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find help quickly to get you back on your feet, with a dry place to sleep and food in your belly. The rest will take time to get, but your health, mentally, physically, and spiritually are the most important right now...

Welcome to the forum Perth Girl!! I take anti-depressants and have for some years now. That doesn't mean that will be the case for you. My suggestion is to try one, and if it doesn't work or gives you really bad side-effects, try another. In most cases, you won't have to take them for only a...

Welcome Nev and thanks for sharing your story and video. Sometimes I think that creative expression is one of the neatest ways of processing our trauma. You at least have a "record" of where you are at that time in your life. It's also neat that you have this video to play to your son as he...

I won't cut myself because it is only a temporary solution to a permanent problem. I have to deal with the reasons I want to supress my pain and walk forward, not backward. It never worked to "solve" the reason I was cutting.

When I do watch TV, I usually watch something really boring, like the History channel. When I go online, it's only after I've been awake and can't sleep. Then I come here and try to relate to those on the forum. I don't know, I hear what you are saying. Maybe I need to keep to doing crafts...

My problem with sleep is that I seem to cycle. I take prescriptions before bed time, and even then, I go through periods of not being able to sleep. I lay down and there I am, wide awake for hours. I finally get out of bed and realize that there is no way I'm gonna be able to sleep. I read...

The only good thing I can say about menopause is that the periods stop!!lol YEAAAA

I am coming up on the age of menopause, so don't really know how much that effects me. I'm still having periods (not every month).

So glad to hear you let go of that "Stress Monster" I've heard that they must weigh 5 million pounds!! lol

I hear what you are saying, Maze, and think that the anger you are feeling is a good thing. What I mean is that I hear you fighting for your right to have a joyful and fulfilling life without all the negative things your abuse did to you. I was told that this is a definite starting place in...

For so many, many years, forgiving my perpetrators was a "no way" decision. I also felt like I would be absolving their treatment should I do so. Even with years of therapy (CBT) I found myself full of hate for the ones that damaged me with their abuse. I had friends that told me that...

Welcome to the forum...:hug: Please don't feel as if you can't talk about your experiences here, we are supposed to help each other. You won't chase anyone away with your story. I have found that, more often than not, others have had the same, if not worse, experiences. This helps me...

Welcome and thanks for sharing part of your history!! Hope we can all work together to heal our past wounds on this forum...suzie q

Welcome Scott Sorry for the delayed welcome, I just joined the other day but have seen your avatar before. Hope we can help each other heal through this forum.. suzie q

Welcome!! I too procrastinated in joining this forum. Glad you decided to join!:hug: May we help each other in the healing that needs to take place...

Welcome! I don't know what to say since reading you introduction. I want to thank you for the courage it took to post your living hell. I think that is the only word I can relate to that would describe the pain and torture you've been through. It makes me want to cry for you and your...

Welcome Fairydust...I'm an ocean freak, so I love your jellyfish!! I started by reading all the introductions from the very beginning to make myself familiar with the others here. Just a suggestion. Hope you find the support you need here!!

Thanks wonderingwhy! I often find myself looking into the mirror to make sure my real face doesn't look like that..and guess what? It often does!!! My avatar helps me smile when I'm trying to post difficult issues. Wanted to say that I follow the Serenity Prayer every...