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I'm not as brave as you. Some of my best friends & most of my family don't know. Funny how people make assumptions. I'm a dog trainer in my post retirement life. When I said I had standing appointment twice a week, they assumed I was teaching classes which I do at other times. I did nothing to...

[QUOTE="Zoogal, Assuming you are just starting ...your T & you just getting to know each other? When getting to know each other, family & your daily life helps not only to establish a framework but allows T to see where your issue is bleeding into your life. Probably in ways you don't notice...

I think of it as watching a very scary movie. First time I'm in it and frightened sometimes to death. Don't know what's going to happen. By the time I watch the same movie for the 10th time, reactions are minimal. Still see the story. Maybe a piece that elicits a mild reaction. In my experience...

Very common, very likely. At that age, there is no vocabulary, no life experience, no understanding of what adult behaviour means. The scarier it is the more likely the brain does not want to deal with it. Just check the news about the abuse by clergy, coaches, scout leaders. At 6-7 age we are...

Should preface by saying...in the USA... People have a right to know.. your dog is a licensed therapy dog. You have a disability that your dog is trained to assist you wth. *A disability* not what the disability is. They have no right to know. It's none of their business. You don't need to...

I think that was wonderful! Took us years to have the trust in our T to know he can be counted on to help. That he is safe enough to tell what is honestly going on with us. To have confidence in what he tells us is strictly for our best interest not some ulterior motives that will result in us...

Sometimes it is just a bat in your room. Sometimes the *lesson* is found in how you deal with it.

I've heard this called therapy hangover. Worth talking to T about. Not all avoidable but could set out some guide lines..a plan..on how to deal with it. For me it helped knowing what to expect, when to call T to check in & outlawing the phrase..that is perfectly normal! Take care of yourself.

Get a good attorney. Get all agreements in writing. Put yourself and kids way before him. Know it sounds expensive but the grief, aggravation in the future is well worth it. My oldest was 9 yo at the time when my attorney said let's put in he pays for college. Huh!? When that time came he had a...

We have been becoming more co-con & have had similar issues. Can only tell you what helped us. Trying to not switch has never worked for us. We are trying to work with an agreement. If one's act is going to affect more than that one, need to check with the others involved. OK sounds so much...

I'm a professional dog trainer. My first response is to rehome him. Not the pound. If you have someone you know great. If not check with your Vet. He may know someone or be willing to post info on his website. Post a notice in his office & the techs can spread the word also. If you are on...

Really makes me appreciate my T. Was seeing him once a month then. During that time didn't even know he had been taken to Mayo clinic for a pacemaker. He didn't miss. Once he called in the morning asking to put off my appointment for an hour. His reason..couldn't read his own writing and double...

Trying to help ones realize abuse was a time ago, & across the country. Not here & now..no action required. Used a map. Logical right? Now can point out States & their names & find them on the map. Progress! Thinks the abusers are everywhere. Was probably told that. It's the time warp hurdle we...

We used hypnosis to kick start our communication. It facilitated parts *checking things out* more at the surface, feeling safe, relaxed, learning they were welcomed. Those were the only messages from T. We shortly learned to do the welcoming relaxation ourselves before a session.

We don't do phone sessions unless it's an ER. But in his office I have been the cause of him running late for his next appointment so I wait if he needs to make sure his client is safe to leave. He does the same for me. However we set a time. If he thinks he is going to be more then 10 minutes...

Totally sympathize. I still have difficulty verbalizing details. My T said there is a fine line between giving details & being retraumatized. Recently there was info he needed involving the details in order to understand the situation but I just couldn't. Your description of events in his office...

Was told that using a crutch was fine if you needed it. There have been new meds, changes in understanding how they work so some combinations work better. You & doc may have to play with doses etc. a bit. Know people on break- thru meds only. Do what is good for *you*. That will make people &...

Totally understand. I was told to think of it as a care team. Would I not tell my T that I had say a seizure disorder? OK that's the reasonable, sane answer!!! What I also learned was that permission can have caveats. You can limit the topics...T can disclose only PTSD dx, meds. Also can limit...

Have no miraculous words for you. Not sure there are any. At least there weren't every time I was where you are. In fact, it took me time to crawl up to where you are...telling someone what was really going on inside. My preferred behavior was a happy smile everything is just wonderful approach...

Thought about this a bit. My T is on vacation. Know how much I hated work calling when I was off. They knew they could & would call if there was a work emergency & the person covering for me was more than adequate. But one call for even a minor yes/no question changed my mindset back. Have had...

Have read some of those holographic papers. Find them fascinating probably cuz they're *star trekkie*! Can't really comment on your misfortunes or say there is, could of been a fix. In my life I learned that organizing everything out there didn't really benefit me. When my house was immaculate...

Very much doubt he's mad. You did nothing wrong. In fact he walked you out & asked you to let him know you made it home safely. I call it a time/space warp when a place starts looking like a not so nice place from the past. Sometimes it's one item in T's office. Sometimes an item I've seen many...

Interesting insight from this question. Realized what has been happening is our T facilitating talking to him & thru that to each other. He has often asked who on the inside can help with that? Anybody know why x wants that? or does that? We've often joked he knows us better cuz he talks to...

Depression sneaks up on me. I only recognize it after it starts...too late. Tried keeping a daily activity/feelings log. But darn Depression has so many sneaky ways of worming itself in unnoticed.

Thank you! Afraid this was some scary permanent change. You are right..there was so much detail. Even details of windows I don't think I would of noticed at the time. So perhaps this is some kind of scary *progress*! Really appreciate you taking time to reply. Will hang in there. But blowing...