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I think learning self awareness was the key things ..first thing throwing out the numbing and avoiding behaviours...the drink and drugs . the excessive control of self and others and the raging ,mindfulness , letting the feelings return..listening to people with a balanced undistorted view ..its...

I suffered such an incident today. was just innocently watching tv and a colleague I thought I got along with casually says to me your mad as a hatter like the cartoons on TV. I have no idea what the intention was but for me the intention does not matter it still hurts me like hell. I just want...

Of course the fact is trauma is bad for society if it was not a problem for other people then there would be no need for all these websites and therapys e.t.c. We would just be like oh this person is traumatised there just trying to control me bully me and shovelling all there shit on me to...

When your progressing in trauma recovery one of the hardest things to witness is someone else who is further down the line and the inner conflict it creates ..the horror with there behaviour and how its affecting the group morale and the compassion for knowing what it is as I myself was in that...

yes indeed I need to let go of this belief that I cant love and be loved because of things I have done...I shall buy that book and read it when I am on holiday next month. ..I am already starting to pull apart the different kinds of shame I am experiencing such as the background issue..the...

its not what is said its what the intention is if you know in your heart its not joking then your reactions is understandable

I seem to be heading for a journey in to the shame issue and I am discovering recently that shame is often at the core of my acting out ..the anger sadness addictions E.T.C. I am finding it difficult to take part in life because of feeling somehow fundamentally shameful ..its like i walk around...

Its been a real rocky section of the road this week a hard learning curve. I made friends with a colleague in work based on an assumption but in the end it turned out was quite an immature person who tried to lie to me when we had a conflict this week and was trying to get in to my pants even...

Thanks yes I am aware of all the co-dependency stuff and its been very helpful on my journey. Indeed in my anger I forgot to mention I also have lots of issues and problems to ...so I have turned it into a joke ...what do you call two people with lots of problems and issues...lots and lots of...

I believe its possible once you become aware of it . it also takes a lot of mindfulness to figure out things like why are you freezing at what time in...

to be honest I don't even about them right now I just hate with a passion. its just were I am at I hope to feel differently one day just feeling very angry with the person for some of the things they have said and done that was hurtful

Ok so working with a colleague today I have decided to detach from..well I have many times and I have gone back for more nonsense. Someone with lots of issues and problems going on but done not appear to be taking any positive action and me being an empath..more than my own good sometimes been...

I rememember for most of my 20s I was completely dissociated from my past sort have had no concept of what had happened were I had come from or were I was going ..I was living in this very dissociated present with no awareness of these previous selfs. I think in dissociation there is a lot of...

Did some great trauma work last week. I went on holiday to my home town and systematically over a few days in chronological order visited all the places of my early life up until my late teens. really helped me paint a picture of my early life development and at which point exactly I was...

I relate a little to this...there is always this assumption that spirituality is the cure all for trauma ..it can help if used in the right way or it can just become something else to get lost in. cool I am sure its a great thing if your sensible with it. that's great its just about the common...

Ha Ha ironically it seems like some indian people want to be western...the grass is always greener on the other side hey.

On a deeper level it is difficult to seperate yoga from indian religion and culture...have you noticed how some people even give them selfs a sort of cultural lobotomy and there dressing up like and even giving them selfs an indian name...I would like to think there is no harm in it but i have...

its really a great thing . such a gentle practice and really gets you in to your body sensations and the felt sense ...and the guy who invented it is not involved in any sexual abuse scandals ( and hes dead now so that will keep him out of trouble lol) your not required to worship him as a god...

There are lots of secular yoga classes around.

I was quite into yoga for a while which I am not against and it is a great thing when approached the right way my experience of it was soured quite a bit though when the leaders of a style I was practicing ...these so called gurus were implicated in a sexual abuse scandal one being charged and...

It is unfortunate there is no culture of compassion in your family, may it be because they have issues of there own , not making any assumptions though. The sad truth is that sometimes when it comes to trauma for many reasons are familys are not the place were we can get the help we need from...

no reply so guess I need to figure it out for my self

Had that dream again ...that mother was alive even though I thought she was dead..this time I asked her a question ..I asked her ...if you have been murdered why are you still here.

yes indeed although there is one person i do want to end the freindship formally with as there are lots of things that was and are terribly wrong , just trying to figure out how though. yes i am much more awake these days , getting very adept at knowing what i want to be near and what I do not...

Yes I am taking steps to get involved in other activiites started swimming lessons and beginning dbt group next week and found a music group. you are right just because I am changing does not mean they are and why should they there just are were there at . I have reached a point were I am...