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@Friday thank you for your long and thoughtful reply. I am thinking about the cost/risk analysis you did and this is how it feels to me: Telling her and leaving: risk of being invalidated and gaslit, risk of internalizing that, risk of carrying it forward until I can heal it .Possible gain of...

@Wonder Woman thank you for the warm thoughts. @whiteraven im sorry you have been through this as well but your post makes me feel less lonely @Truthful_Whispers yes possibly. I do need a therapist who's very good at communication and reliability to not spiral at this year for some reason. In...

I have her WhatsApp. It's a potential route, but it's very distressing for me to wait for replies, and I'm not feeling good enough to put myself through that. @LuckiLee @Muttly Sigh... I hear you guys and will think about it. I am getting tired of putting in the work so will have to see what I...

Hi supportive humans Last weekend I decided to leave therapy. My therapist did something that led to me feeling abandoned. I would have liked to talk about it in therapy, but I don't want to. I don't feel safe raising it, and my mind blocks of and refuses to engage on any thoughts about how I...

It was kind of a heavy session today with some flashbacks. It's a new occurrence for me to have memories come up and try to stay with them in therapy. She asked me what I needed from her and I didn't know. What are things your therapist does when you have flashbacks that help?

Hi recocery4me, It makes perfect sense that you feel this way. I usually feel the hypervigalance in my jaw, shoulders, heart rate and how deep I'm able to breath. There are things that occasionally help me but they don't always work. Namely, yoga with a focus on connecting with how each muscle...

Hello all, So I really struggle with being "told" that I need to be in at a certain time/ need to be present in a certain building. It has to do with being held hostage by daddy-dearest repeatedly growing up. It is not that I have to physically leave the office - I just need to know that I can...

Hi both, thank you for the suggestions. I don't know how, but my mum and I moved into a temporary housing today. Its a relief to be away.

Hello all, I am currently living with my parents. My ptsd is due to my dads frequent manic phases in which he would lock us in, threaten to kill us etc. I live at home but everytime I see my dad I freeze so I try to avoid him as much as possible. This is usually possible because he sleeps during...

Hey all, I wasn't sure where to place this thread, am placing it here. I grew up with the very conscious core belief that people are not to be trusted, are only temporary and that if a relationship feels damaging for me, there is no point in talking about it because addressing it wont change...

I am feeling detached, alone and safe. Also how do I like posts?? can’t see a button for it.

Hey seeking Africa, I’m sorry you’re going through a low point. I’m in a similar boat these days. Maybe when you feel able to do more you could map two other routines, one that is low intensity and another of medium intensity.the low intensity one could have basic requirements listed: take...

I’ve used it a couple of times but not long term. I found that it helped me relax my muscles like weed does (which was a relief) without the paranoia/bad head state that can accompany weed for me. So I’m interested in using more of it. I do have friends who say it has helped with their anxiety...

Hey healinginprocess! Thanks for your reply! I have been doing small things, but would like a routine going. Laying about not doing anything is starting to impact me but I also can’t motivate myself as most activities seem futile. Hi zencat, thanks for replying ! I do think the chores keep me...

Hey all ! As a kid sleeping was easier than dealing with my parents, so I would either be out of the house or sleeping as soon as I got home (I could sleep from 5 pm till the next morning). Even though I am not in the same situation anymore (I’m still at home, but my abusive father is in his 70s...

Known and loved for a very long time, and trying to break away. Thank you for the reinforcement :). @ The Albatross I hadn’t really considered it. Tis a good point. I will think about some potential counters. I have a counter for this that works for me: I can show or admit weakness in safe...

If I set boundaries with my family I will be punished (god, karma, the universe, whichever). I can’t survive without my families support. There are many, but these are the ones I’m struggling with right now. Don’t really have counters. I read articles on tinybudhha.com when these beliefs are...

Feeling hopeful and combative on the surface and sad, afraid and empty deeper down. Also. This is a great thread for self check ins :).

Hey hithere! Thanks for your reply! I don’t know if it’s fair to say he doesn’t care. I think the truth may be somewhere like he can be selfish at times and not at others and I have to figure out how much of that I can put up with. I also focused on his worst behavior in the post, mostly he...

Hey FauxLiz, I’m sorry. No one quite has the potential to cause hurt like families, and like you said, in certain situations they can’t be avoided. And holidays make it worse because they reinforce that we should have had these bonds but we don’t. Are there other sources of support - people that...

Thanks for your replies Wilbur, zoogal and ronin ! I do think it’s a factor of both communication gaps where there are gaps in how we read each other, plus the fact that I am more assertive on text as I have time to respond carefully not just react (and my instinctive reactions are definitely...

Thank you for your thoughtful replies everyone ❤️ . I worry that I was not doing a good enough job of protecting myself by staying in the relationship but also did not want to leave because for the first time since I can remember I am happy. Your replies helped me add some perspective and...

Thanks for your reply Frieda :). He doesn’t really demand verbally, it’s more like he will try seducing me or try again in a bit after I say I’m tired. Other times, he stops on his own and can’t continue if he thinks he’s done something that’s hurt me or if he thinks I’m not into something...

Hey y’all. I’m a new member here. I have been struggling with my mental health since childhood, and was diagnosed as having ptsd a few months ago by a new therapist. I have been reading the posts and discussions here and it’s uncanny how many of the struggles posted here are things I am also...