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Hi RaiAnn, You're right in saying this isn't your fault. Ultimately, whatever is going on in his head are HIS demons that he has to deal with, and it's not your fault that some of the things you say might stress him out. It's not fair on you to be twisting everything you say to something...

:hug:s are always appreciated! Same to you, @Santa_Laurie

That's a beautiful and encouraging story :) it's things like this that empower us to keep going. I hope your journey continues and you find more and more happiness :)

It's a trauma anniversary for me, and I'm sick. Ugh. It means I can't see anyone, I feel too gross to talk to anyone about it. I've been thinking about the assholes of my past a lot this week, and it's only just clicked that it's linked to everyone talking about Halloween all week. Somehow...

This is a really brave question to ask. I hope you're making progress (however slowly!) processing your trauma! My abuser definitely enjoyed abusing me, at least sexually. He just LOVED to do it, loved seeing me in pain, loved getting what he wanted from me. Often it was the only time he ever...

For something close to 8 years I've somehow been the person that attracts all the "troubled souls". I remember when I was 16, juggling three different conversations with suicidal friends at once at midnight on a school night. My parents would yell at me for staying up late and I'd cry because I...

Hi Tabby, welcome :) That's an awful experience, I'm sorry you had to go through that, it's no wonder you're having night terrors! Are you in any kind of therapy? I've sometimes found that my night terrors (also a result of sexual trauma) are my subconscious mind's way of telling me that I need...

Thanks guys, that's really reassuring. I was hoping I wasn't just going crazy or had some repressed memory making me scared! Don't know why fireworks made me feel unsafe, but I guess I can just accept that for some reason they did tonight and I just need to treat myself nicely and like you said...

My trauma is from sexual and emotional abuse, not combat or a car crash etc. But about half an hour ago someone in my area set off fireworks (illegally, but hey) and I got super paranoid. I'm really hypervigilant right now and I'd really just like to hide behind the curtains at my front window...

You should definitely tell your therapist. Sounds like it's severely impacting your life and they might be able to help you work around it. If you have some music, or a movie that usually calms you down, you could try playing it quietly in the background while you read. It could hep keep you...

This is a great idea for a thread, and something I think a lot of us need. Why should this be such a taboo topic when a lot of us are affected by this all the time?? I feel like I'm searching for a man who is capable of hugging me, and JUST hugging me, not trying to turn it into anything...

This is different wording, but still wrong. Trauma doesn't just "go away" of it's own accord... nor does it HAVE to stick around the way it currently is. It takes work but you can vastly reduce its impact on your life and health. What kind of counsellors has she seen, if you don't mind me...

Hi Peter! Welcome :) it's bizarre how unhelpful some counsellors can be isn't it! I don't know how the ones your daughter has seen have thought "you'll just have to live with it" is an acceptable response! While us sufferers do have to adapt and find a lifestyle that manages our symptoms, it...

Justify your brother's behaviour? It doesn't sound particularly justifiable. It's ridiculous for someone to expect you to care when something bad happens to a person who made your life hell. Is he just blind to what your father did to you and your mother because of the favouritism shown to him...

Hi! I went to university which from what I gather is a bit different to American college, but sounds like I did the same kind of major as you. I did a very heavy load of chem/bio/genetics/biochem, I think I did about 2 subjects in three years that weren't science. Powering through classes can...

There's pool yoga?! That sounds fun! I suppose I could use yoga to tame my anxiety too. Silver linings?

@DharmaGirl interesting, there are a few around me, one works next door to the psych I see for PTSD. Hadn't quite made that connection though, so thankyou, I'll look into it. @Lucycat the one they thought was most likey was "Psoriatic arthropathy", it presents itself in a lot of ways but mine...

So today I was told that I have an auto-immune disorder. Which is the reason I've been in pain pretty much every day my whole life. This pain etc has considerably contributed to my mental health issues since I was quite depressed as a child, never fitting it because I couldn't run like the other...

Hi! I had a similar situation too. Finally managed to escape my abusive situation, but my abuser still went to the same university I did and so unfortunately I saw him and reminders of him EVERYWHERE. Even after he graduated I felt afraid, couldn't concentrate, constantly speed walked and was...

@blackswan Oooh, good point. When you realise it's safe to talk about what happened to you, there's a temptation to just blurt it all out at the nearest trusted individual. Seems helpful at the time, often isn't later. More good reasons for you as a supporter to chat to a counselor. Something...

Hi there, This sounds like a very painful struggle for both of you and I'm sorry you have to experience this because of what some awful people did in the past. I'm glad you're reaching out for help. I'm a sexual abuse survivor myself (I was abused in my late teens) and unfortunately it's not...

I just want to say, thankyou SO much everyone for your responses. I've been diagnosed for about a year and so I'm still a bit of a "rookie" (not that I'm saying it gets any easier, just that I lack experience) and it's great to have so many wise people to help me :) :) That is so true. A lot of...

You guys know the type, right... "my boyfriend broke up with me and I was really sad so now I have PTSD" or "somebody said something mean to me this one time and now I have PTSD" or "oh my gosh you have PTSD? Me TOO! Like this one time, I was really embarrassed because..." Admittedly, my...

I wouldn't know about the US, but here a lot of the hospitals have in-patient retreat-type things, and out-patient programs. Maybe they do something similar over there? I hear really good things about group therapy in that kind of situation, and getting to know people who help you remember...

@digger you have a point. I have blocked a few people from my news feed recently and it's definitely a good idea to revise my friends list and make sure I stay away from triggery people who will talk about it all the time, maybe a good opportunity to cut off some unhelpful relationships...