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The first rule of Fight Club is don't talk about Fight Club. The 6'4" I think I read somewhere, the 42 thing I didn't. I forgot to mention sometimes I just know things about people and this scares them. Reading between the lines, I guess- what you tell me will make some difference to what I...

I went to therapy in HS. And college. And then not until I was in my late 20's because I was having problems concentrating at work. I was diagnosed with ADHD. My youngest daughter has sensory processing disorder and I think I really have that, not ADHD. Most of my therapists were jungian. The...

Promicarius- A foreign intelligence operative, huh? That's a childhood. My sufferer's father was a Cheif detective in a major city. Sounds like you and he could have some interesting and unique conversations. Expert mindf@#$ers. Winter's was also a deacon in the local babtist church. It was a...

Sorry for the double post. I just keep thinking of more that I want to respond to. My therapist thinks I have already processed the abuse, I think. He also is cognitive behavioral so he sees what I am doing to handle the current situation as most important. I should bring up that thing about me...

Promicarius, you bring up a good point about why I stayed here that long. I have two girls, 3 and 7. They love their Dad. Its a decision that doesn't just affect me its them too. Thats why I kept hanging on and trying. We don't have the kind of social safety net here in the USA that they have in...

I hear you Anonymous. I'm sure people have gotten PTSD from what I went through. Today the most difficult thing to understand is why my parents couldn't be bothered to put a stop to it. They knew. As a parent of 2 daughters myself I would have a serious problem with any creep who messed with...

I also see a therapist regularly and have never been told by either him or my doctor that I have PTSD. I have ADHD so yes dissociation happens, but it always has happened, not severely- pretty much daydreaming. It happened before the abuse. I was under the impression that I was a willing...

Yeah, I am getting fed up. This last episode of isolation began because I suspect he was angry with me over a conversation I misinterpreted but he hasn't given an explanation. I have tried to respond to all this stuff with equanimity and good manners and...well, grace, in spite of the fact that...

Well Thanksgiving is on the 28th, guess I could just defrost the turkey and keep it in the fridge for an extra 2 days and cook it for my birthday party on the 30th. I think it would keep for 2 extra days, right? I didn't invite him to my birthday party. Its a woman's only slumberparty ;)

My sufferer is not speaking to me right now, and has not texted me since Sunday, for reasons which he has not specified. Today he was going to drop his daughter off here so he could go to a doctors appointment. We planned that last week. I sent him a text an hour ago asking if he was still...

I wouldn't have any objection to saying I have PTSD if the label fit, but there's alot of symptoms I just don't have. I think I isolate more because of depression. I don't do it in the summer. Here in upstate NY there's no light in the winter and I have seasonal symptoms of depression brought on...

Wow. I like you. You make sense. I was a sexual abuse victim, it just didn't give me PTSD. In fact my sufferer and I have that bond (there is an author that refers to this as Children of the Secret) in that we were both abused by police officers. His was his dad though, and involved systematic...

I find that I isolate in the cold dark months anyway, because I have seasonal depression. Now that a guy with PTSD who isolates is my only friend, (I have other acquiaintences but he is the only friend who comes over) and I am seperated from my husband, Many days can go by where I only see my 2...

Its funny, though. I think he does that stuff to try and put me at a distance, and the attempt is halfhearted at best. I feel wierdly secure about the whole thing. My therapist says it's not good for me to be with someone with intimacy issues though, as my ex (not PTSD) has them really badly...

Abstract says- "I suspect isolation with PTSD probably falls into 3 categories. Depression related - improved by improvement in depression and contact/activity; related to overstimulation and symptoms - improved by treating the underlying trauma and reducing PTSD symptoms; and attachment related...

Wow, what an interesting thread. Thanks for pointing this one out to me, Abstract. It is diffucult to be a supporter, because even after you take your ego out of it and say "This has nothing to do with me." There's still the question of how to interact. My sufferer texted me with an obnoxious...

Albatross pretty much covered it. Guilt makes it worse. I don't think that problem is unique to PTSD. Probably the scope is though, but everyone slips into this sometimes. My moms b-day is tommorrow and I forgot to get her a card! (mail takes 4 days to get to her house) Its going to be really...

Abstract, you sound so much like my sufferer. Especially the answering communication thing. I guess I would just say in the long run this is probably not a fun way to live your life. Is there any way you could sort of challenge yourself to just do it? Set a goal, answer one text, a day, one...

"Most cowards will flee like little b***ches when even gently confronted. It is particularly disgusting and unattractive when men do it. It's like they don't have testicles." Keep working on that non-violent communication, you aren't there yet. I can see the need to purge liars, etc, but...

Brat, I don't think PTSD is contagious, but I do see how you might feel that way. I dont think its all negative characteristics though. These might be some generalizations, but there are some good things about people with PTSD too. Winter has a lot of really nice things about his personality...

It is funny though, it does feel ocasionally like a lot of you sufferers are trying to talk me out of this ;) Brat I still didnt answer the question you asked me about wether or not Im investing more then he is in the relationship. My first inclination was to say yes, I text him more, I'm here...

No. Because people aren't that easy to quantify. I kind of did that with my last relationship, because I wanted some one with stability to have kids with. He turned out to be a workaholic, passionless, porn addicted liar who is uninterested in his own kids and spends no time with them. Not what...

I am angry that the psych meds you are on are too much and make brilliant, organized you, duller and stupider then you should be. I am angry that your drs dont communicate well and you havent done anything about that. I think is the meds that are making you isolated and incommunicative. I'm...

Drew- its not a man woman thing, its a full time single parent thing. (Typically thats the woman, I guess but not always) If you are the parent that has custody thats how you are going to think. Brat your description of the non possessive husband sounds like the father of my kids. Not jealous...

Brat-3 months. Its mostly a friendship right now, with some dating thrown in. We have quite a lot in common and we do really like each other quite alot. He has full custody of his 5 year old daughter, and I have a 3 year old and a 7 year old. We do a lot of stuff together with our kids because...