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Thanks Ashdawn! That was beautiful

I agree - you don't need people like that in your life. Hopefully you'll find like-minded peoples on your trip! ...it sounds like she is jealous and is wanting to tear you down in whatever way she can... I hope you don't wear her negativity

Check your other post for my answer

Hi falling, I hope you find this forum to be a good safety net! As for the trigger, sometimes it's just stress! Maybe you're feeling a bit more vulnerable than you're willing to admit to yourself, and your subconscious is feeling the need to remind you to make wise choices. The best thing to do...

I absolutely hate any man (or woman) from whatever country who carries the attitude that they can take what they want, when they want. I see these people as un-evolved animals. No woman or man should have to fear having anyone treat them as was described!!! "The world is a dangerous place to...

Yes, absolutely! I think it's easier to see solutions when there is a bit of distance from them. Finding solutions for others helps me understand what I need to heal. Plus it just makes me feel a bit better to think I might have made someone else feel better. I think the Africa trip would be...

It's a very messed up game he is playing- he is trying to manipulate you, make you feel guilty. Don't get sucked in! If you keep putting up with him your going to end up with PTSD... You don't want that- it's awful!!!

Maybe you should skip classes today? The lecturers will understand if you grab some friends and go do some self caring.Well done!!!

Leave him! Having PTSD doesn't make that kind of behaviour ok!!! You need to make sure you are safe at all costs. Maybe even cut off all contact with him until he is ready to show you that he has (and is committed to...) getting help and making some serious changes! Stay safe Elizabeth.

Hi livinganightmare, I understand some of what your going through. I was date raped when I was 17 and got pregnant. I too gave the child up for adoption. I think you made the right choice - I'm proud of you. It comforts me to know that out of my pain someone else could find joy- the parents I...

I'm starting today- LOVED the movie so much! Looking forward to the book!

I really love your analogy DMerish! Thanks for that- you helped me!

Sounds like you need a safe way to fill the emptiness. Maybe start with something really small? Do you like to read? Draw? Cook? I'm feeling similar and am trying to work through it- I'm rooting for you.

I've recently left my job and had a complete breakdown. I should have listened to myself and left a long time ago! I kept telling myself that I would get through it... I was just trying to stay positive. I know it's going to be heartbreaking to leave.. But honestly it sounds like now is the...

Hi meadowsweet, I'm feeling a bit like this as well. I think that advice on anger is relevant for different people. It sounds like in your case you definitely need to get it out! Better out than in. You didn't deserve whatever happened to make you feel this way to begin with, so you definitely...

Don't beat yourself up, you were just a kid! ...on the bright side, it's great that you feel safe enough to remember that. It means you're healing a bit... Go with it.

I'm not... Spent the day sleeping and watching tv. I'm SO frustrated with my inability to function like the average person!!!

Hi Owen1978, is your wife a member too? I'm sure you'll both be able to get the support you need here...

Lol ;) glad you liked my idea. I was brutally honest when I wrote down all my crap thoughts - it felt SO good to flush it and tell the abuser's (even though they couldn't hear...) where they could shove their crap.

There's a couple of things i want to say about this... Truly bad people are incapable of recognising that there is anything wrong with them, they live blaming everyone else around them. I think you're just normal-bad, but OBVIOUSLY have a good heart. "If you throw enough sh*t at a wall, some...

I think you definitely need to step back... I know this sounds harsh, but you were being selfish when you turned up at her work. You were thinking of your needs not hers- it sounds like she needs people around her who have her needs as a priority at the moment. If you can't do this, you need to...

I love it too! Sometimes I have a dream which I think is in response to my constant fear of the monster that did most of the damage to me... I'm at a park connecting with people who's faces I can't see. K (monster) turns up and starts walking towards me, he has a smug/knowing look on his face. I...

I'm sorry to hear that! Thanks for the update :)

Hi Starry, I haven't introduced myself yet... Can I just copy and paste your intro? It pretty much sums up my life! I'm looking for the same as you... Such a relief to find a place where people get it. I've been feeling so lost because the only person who understands what I'm going through is...

Hi, maybe work on Maslows hierarchy for a while. Basic needs have to be met before you can build up psychological (ie. friends). Also, maybe find friends that can share a hobby - so when your having rough (asshole) days you can just focus more on the activity and it won't strain the relationship...