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Yesterday, an old phrase popped in my head again “Pull your panties down.” It appears sporadically, sometimes associated with anxiety other times with no known trigger at all. I realized that this phrase has been appearing for a while now and I never knew why. However, with the recent knowledge...

As WhiteRaven pointed out, many on this forum experienced medical malpractice of sorts. Unless you meant something else, I’m sure here the majority will understand what you’re going through. Unsure if you meant something else please feel free to clarify if you did. I’m unsure if the doctor who...

Like Sideways and yourself stated no one can really answer whether or not you were abused. Though that being said sexual promiscuity, extensive knowledge on sex at a young age, masturbation at a young age, bed wetting, emotional flashbacks, intense memories, acting out sexually on others or...

You’re definitely in a tough situation, Strongshadow96. Even if she does become homeless it is not your fault nor your burden to carry. You can help by providing her the tools to get herself out of the hole but you can not join her. It’s like the drowning scenario. You first have to help...

Is okay to ask you a question or will that result in a ban as well?

Usually it’s not like this. It’s best to ignore certain people. It can be frustrating when Moderator Plain Jain states that rest of has to ignore and not respond when the other person gets to continue. But honestly this post is about helping and giving advice to the original poster. So if you...

It depends on the subtype though anyone with any mental disorder or even just due to their personality can be difficult. Not necessarily all people with BPD. The only boundary I have with my sister is talking about religion since I have religious trauma. Other than that she’s my main supporter...

Yeah, I have a sibling who was first diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder but later diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder instead. There are three subtypes for Borderline, and the difference between Borderline and Bipolar is that Borderline, not always, has a connection to trauma. Even if...

thank you :) I hope to make the same progress

Is it on the this website or somewhere else? I was confused on what the header meant, but it sounds like a really good read.

I wish I could add more to the conversation besides the fact that I understand what you mean about wanting to save your sibling. And if you don’t save them then something bad will happen and it will eventually lead to blaming oneself 😞 It’s hard when we’re barely in recovery ourselves but we see...

EMDR definitely has an affect on a lot of things. Since you’re targeting past memories sometimes those memories can stay in our forefront so to speak meaning it’ll be easier for us to be triggered especially the same day or day after session. Does that makes sense? I feel like those sentences...

That’s kind of disheartening that others will rather lose a friend because of something that could be constructive criticism. We have no way of knowing how the OP would react to certain things. They did mention being a perfectionist and at times perfectionist do enjoy constructive criticism...

I think this part is important in the area where you say you’re too confrontational. It’s something you noticed and agree with but not necessarily something you’re changing despite it having negative affects on your friendships. I think a saying that people say a lot, not saying this is the case...

I forgot to say. I don’t she genuinely tries to not respect or support me. We both grew up in the same household so maybe the abuse affected her differently.

My sister stated that her feeling trapped is when I would ask her to do things for instance me asking for help with my makeup. Or I choose inconvenient times to ask to hang out. I tried explaining that with the makeup it’s not due to me not entirely not knowing what I’m doing but wanting to...

I’m trying to work on processing things more. So if it seems like I’m spam posting I do apologize. If my inner critic wasn’t loud before the loss of multiple friendships, it definitely is now. In the span of two years I lost seven friends, though that number doesn’t include the relationships I...

Should I give her my new number or let things be.

I’m debating if I should contact an old friend. She stated wanting to take a break from me when I told her I had a crush on her. This was back in early May. I know that this crush was just a trauma response in thinking that my female friendships will turn out like my abuser. Though I never...

This past week a childhood fear of the dark resurfaced. It’s an intense feeling. I’m scared to even describe it out of the fear of making it real. However, I don’t want things to get worse. I’m mostly scared of someone hurting me when I’m sleep. Hurting me in the sense of covering my mouth and...

Same name! I think everyone saying you should ask a professional is right because this is extremely grey area. Yes, it is not normal to not wear gloves but like No More stated the reason was genuine. However, as a doctor if she was going to break protocol I think an assistant should’ve been...

I think my therapist put it a better way to put it is, one is powerless as a child. When you think back to your childhood could you even choose what to eat, who to dress you, etc. As a child you’re usually your core self compassionate creative. A child is very me centered. They think everything...

I think I would prefer to stick with the 86%b if exposure therapy. Though I can understand the benefit of using a therapist. I have a list of current stuck points, cognitive distortions. I also written down some of my triggers. I know it’s going to take me a long time to princess my trauma...

So it was mostly you doing exposure on yourself? Should I expose myself to a relationship all the while developing self consent. Or should I develop self consent first then start exposure therapy with sex. When you engaged in the second stage where you were exposing yourself to the actual oral...

How is exposure therapy in relation to sexual trauma? Do they just continuously ask me questions about sex? Do I imagine having sex?