Debating If I Should Contact Former Friend

[LeiaFlower]

I’m debating if I should contact an old friend. She stated wanting to take a break from me when I told her I had a crush on her. This was back in early May.

I know that this crush was just a trauma response in thinking that my female friendships will turn out like my abuser. Though I never explained any of this to her. I figured she didn’t want to hear it.

I just want to give her that space. But also I want to apologize for not valuing the friendship. Though I’m conflicted. I understand from her past why she would want to take a step back. Though it feels like I’m not honoring myself by apologizing for something that was a trauma response. But I also don’t want to not hold myself accountable for screwing things up. Any advice or if you’ve been in a similar situation. . .

 

[Sideways]

If she’s asked for space, I think you should respect that.

 

[LeiaFlower]

If she’s asked for space, I think you should respect that.

Should I give her my new number or let things be.

 

[Sideways]

I think you should let things be. At least for a period of months (6 or so), before passing on new contact details.