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anni, So glad things resonate for you. There are a lot of 'neon signs' going off in my head as I read it, lol! so typical to the disordered. I think keeping 'silent' or 'hiding' about mental disorders, whether it's PTSD or psychopathy is WRONG. Just my opinion. Why do we have mental health...

I think it's a shame that there is a 'don't tell' aspect to PTSD. I can't imagine working to function in reality and in truth without sharing that I have triggers and what sets me off. I don't think it needs to be for public consumption (although I will write about this more on my blog) but I'd...

I'm really struggling right now.. This last weekend, I was exposed to a Narcissists smear campaign in the form of my son's boyfriend. He was staying with us for awhile, until he could get work. He told me he was diagnosed Narcissist already, but I gave the benefit of the doubt (BIG MISTAKE)...

Volta, Very interesting. That would be projection. I guess the first thing to ask yourself when you're applying blame to her, is what you're blaming her for, does the foundation for it lie within something you yourself are feeling/doing. Does this make sense? I know that for me, I am a...

Anthony, Agreed. Would you be surprised that some therapists DO encourage exposure of clients to places that the abuser and the survivor have inhabited ESPECIALLY when they live close to one another? I don't agree with this approach and thank GOD nor does my therapist. In her opinion, it's "Why...

Lizio. You are NOT wrong. Your post is one of hundreds I've seen the past two years. What you described is profound and is exactly what the disorders do. It is definitely different than just your regular everyday asshole. The path you've chosen for recovery is one I wish more survivors would...

Pietro, Why do the things you write, resonate so well with me? There are a few here, where I feel connected through having PTSD. Are you a writer? Or did you mention this and I missed it? I'm a writer too. A blog, a supporter for survivors of personality disordered individuals. Yesterday, I...

Raven, Wow, so many cool people here, really... I just thought of something and I'd like to share it with you. Last year, my therapist told me to write out my abuse history and that this was my 'homework' and I was to read it to her. I put it here last night and now I want to delete it. I...

Whitney, When I see your posts, it brings a smile to my face! I'm enjoying too! :cool: The sun as well!

Whitney, Thank you for such positive feedback! Being positive can really be contagious if one is open to the possibilities. Sometimes I feel down, but I seem to get right back up and keep fighting. I still haven't lost hope, even when things seem so hopeless and right now, I'm a bit 'stuck'...

Raven, How do I put the above on ignore? I'm lost, but that's a bit much. I understand just where you are. In my healing process, that was the DARKEST time of my life. I felt abandoned by God, let alone by everyone else. But I was willing to sit in that pain because it was teaching me. I...

Anni, I"m so sorry you have a headache!! I can't disagree with you EITHER. LOL! They don't have to check off on everything on the list to be considered disorders. The BASIC rule with regards to these people that ALL of the display is LACK. OF. EMPATHY. and CONTEMPT. What you described above...

Raven, I just shared my abuse story on another thread. That's the third time I've done it. I try to do this in a very few places where it feels safe in sharing. I'm going with my gut here and perhaps it's wrong, but 'eh', live and learn. I figure I've lost so much that there is no other way to...

Anthony, I agree with you to an extent, and then I disagree with you. There ARE a lot of them. I work with the fallout daily of survivors as well as being a survivor myself. You are right in that there are assholes in the world, toxic types, but these extremes in behavior are far more common...

Philippa, Absolutely agree. I consider it a blessing not to have learned to hate men. I really love my men friends, even though half of them are gay lol! But so is my son. I have the best time with my gay male friends though. They loved me enough to teach me that not all men are total...

LOL! Pietro, Volatile? Welcome to my world lol! Yes, six and three grandchildren. I'm told I don't look that old. Nice compliment considering all the trauma and feeling more like seventy. :) I believe feeling emotions are imperative to recovery. You may well have answered a question for me...

I'm having the most difficult time here, knowing where to post what and if I'm saying the wrong thing. I'm constantly monitoring myself and it's damned annoying... I know how I feel, but I don't quite know how to express it. I'm a survivor of chronic childhood abuse at the hands of a...

I'm so very sorry about what happened to you.... My father was psychopathic and my mother narcissistic. I have NC with my entire biological family. There is still a lot of anger, particularly being alone now for a few years, away from the fam, I've been able to process it without their added...

Pietro, I do understand this. Much of what you write resonates with me. You're able to put into words what I can't. Frankly, I'm VERY tired of the past beckoning me and it's interesting that this is what you've said to yourself too. I understand your anger too. If I could put into words how I...

Pietro, I understand the *what* to do element. I'm struggling with that too. If my writing was good enough....

After growing up in an abusive environment, where every authority figure was either molesting me or physically/verbally abusing me, well...I have trouble with authority figures. I don't work, but was in school working toward a Master's in Psych. before I was sideswiped by two autoimmune within a...

Pencil, Absolutely! I talk about that a lot on my blog. You are absolutely right! The familiarity... Philippa, incredibly wise you are. Very insightful decision about your mother. I can see search terms on my blog. About half are about personality disordered parents. There is very little...

By the way Phillipa, you are exactly correct when it comes to victimhood. I couldn't agree with your perspective more. It's so nice to share with people who understand this. thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Phillipa, This is so very characteristic of personality disorders. They provoke reactions. Your emotional upset is what they live for. This is the heart of where their sadism lies. My last ex was a psychopath and did this very thing to me, as I stood up and fought for myself. It took me years...

Safe now, No, that's not what I'm saying and I'm happy to clarify. Predators identify those who are vulnerable to them, for whatever reason, be it childhood issues or other vulnerabilities. If the targeted person doesn't understand the red flags, they would not know. I knew, just not in...