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Well, that has taken some thought and digestion. I was going to reply in indignation that I don't see my husband as a villain - he isn't . I have always known that he is a calm, patient, reliable man, who is wholly committed to me and to doing whatever he can to support me. Then I began to...

In dramas, the new insights from therapy enable people to make dramatic changes. I find I realise things outside therapy, but I can't see what to do with them. There doesn't seem to be a way to apply them. Two recent examples We are fostering a nervous dog, who has attached solely to me. My...

It will depend on where you go. I've been an inpatient in ordinary NHS mental health units. Generally you will be protected from yourself and started on a new set of meds, but there isn't much in the way of therapy, or much understanding of PTSD and trauma.

I took this to therapy today. I'd been in two minds about raising it, but it came in quite naturally, when she thanked me for making the effort to get there every week when things are so rocky, and that made me feel I must be a fraud. It seemed to surprise and confuse my therapist somewhat...

Today I remembered an event, when I was about nine. I bought an ice cream from a van, but as I crossed the road it fell off the cone. I returned the van, with my empty cone, explained the mishap, and was shocked that the ice cream man did not give me another. I had confidently expected that the...

I'm thinking of you today and tomorrow. I believe your automatic strength will kick in and carry you through everything you have to do.

Why? Because it would inconvenience others. Because I don't have right to expression or self-determination. Because if I pretend it isn't there it might not be. Because if I can control myself then there can't really be anything wrong with me, so I have no right to feel distress. Because no-one...

But you did answer effectively. At that moment the worst part was the one that held most power over you, and it was the one you spoke about. At another time, it will be another aspect. You need to work through it all at some time, and you used this session for that part.

Oh yes- I always aim to be as invisible as trout passing through water. It looks as though I can cope, even though I want to run away screaming.

I appear to be sitting calmly, playing patience on the laptop and watching Gardener's World. Internally I'm fighting against running from the house in utter panic. But it doesn't show, so it must be less valid than those hysterical types who run round emoting at the drop of a hat. Self control...

I've been there with the NHS. It has taken 7 years of fighting to get proper treatment, funded by the NHS but supplied by an external provider. I've put in formal complaints, involved my MP and used an advocate extensively. I've been through the attempts to diagnose me with a personality...

I'm completely confused, because there is a group for CBT/DBT, which are specific types of therapy, but you are saying there doesn't need to be a group for EMDR, another type of therapy Similarly, there are groups for military and first responder trauma, but there doesn't need to be one for...

Thank you all. I'm sorry each of you has experienced such a loss, and sorry too if I've stirred it up unnecessarily for you. I'm also relieved that we seem to share the ongoing sadness, loss and sense of waste, but relieved that in this, at least, I seem to be normal. Yes, the sense that it...

Does completing grieving mean you no longer cry? My son was stillborn over thirty years ago. There are still times when I'm reminded of him and feel sad, or occasionally cry, about the waste, and all he never experienced. It has been suggested that means I haven't finished grieving, but I...

I have, and have read the thread it links to, but I can't see anything by JoeyLittle about user groups. The post I quoted suggested there was a new thread about groups somewhere that I had missed, so I wanted to read it.

Can someone post the link for that? I looked in Administration, but can't see anything since Things to be aware of as we move towards the next upgrade

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That's the problem from the fatal crash. My preferred seat was always the one beside the driver, where I could see who got on, felt the driver was accessible in a moment of crisis and had a rear view of anyone approaching because there was a glass panel immediately in front. Now I've seen...

I've had to create a situation where I can't avoid it - I've made a much-needed appointment for an eye test, in the next town at a time when I know my husband will need the car. Using the bus has so many interlinked problems for me. It's a direct trigger because one trauma occurred while...

This was the first time I've done a formal body scan, with a fairly new therapist. During it, as well as noticing my body, I was aware of my vision contracting and becoming red faded from the edge inwards. Afterwards I felt pressure inside my head, and that has stayed with me, along with being...

And in any case , what is a German? The borders have wandered around over the centuries, as have the people. I have a mix of German and English ancestors on both sides of my family. As I delved into my family tree, I found that characteristics I thought came from my "German-ness" like a desire...

Three weeks ago there was fatal bus crash, on the route I use. The driver, who I've met many times, and a passenger were killed and several others seriously injured when a lorry pulled out in front of them. I knew I had to get back on the bus, or I'd avoid it for ever, and I did today...

Moving on from the immediate issues, do you know why you were triggered by this incident? I thought I remembered that your trauma was a car accident. What is the link between that and the conversation with your T? Or are there other traumas as well? Being able to identify the root and work on it...

urgh, it's proving difficult. Today I didn't even manage the last minute getting dressed before OH came home. How unfair to him is that? The hospital told him very firmly to take paracetamol rather than any other pain killer. I asked him to keep them at work, not at home, because I'm...

My lovely husband woke at 4am yesterday with chest pains and difficulty breathing. He's in his early 60s, with an extensive family history of heart problems including the death of his father, aged only 50. After eight hours at the hospital we know that it wasn't a heart attack, although there...