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So I've read alot in the fourms and along with my time with my ex that was working through her past trauma. Has said that consistency is a big big key. I totally agree with this and tried to be as consistent with her as possible when we were together. So my question is how do you stay...

It's definitely been hard to move on not just because of that but she does try to keep a small connection open with me through social media.

That's what I am doing. I'm trying just to move on and keeling the door open to her I'd she wants to come back.

So I've posted this past winter about my ex girlfriend becoming triggered around me due to her past abusive relationship and other past SA. We talked about it and she didn't blame me for anything she was struggling with her trauma and realizing that she could have complex trauma. We tried to...

I finally met up with my ex after months of not seeing each other. I've posted in the past few months about everything that happened and our break up but long story short. My ex with past trauma was triggered while being in a relationship with me and pulled away and finally ended our...

Thank you for the reply. I'll keep it light and fun. I do want it to become more than just friends ago though, but I am in no rush to push that on her.

Thank you for that

So I've posted about my partner being trigger around me and ending our relationship a few months ago. From that point we have very lightly kept in contact over the months. She had asked me to keep inviting her to things that we both enjoyed and I did however she never actually came to them. We...

Thank you for this thoughtful and detailed response It was very hard for sure. As I have mentioned in other threads she always thought i would act the same as her abuser. The slightest disagreement would turn into her believing that I would emotionally abuse her. 😔

Our relationship of a year had ended after my girlfriend told me that she had a resurgence of her past sa trauma. She didn't blame me or hold me responsible. As she put it she felt unheard some times. I was very confused because we had always been very open and communicated especially during...

ive played that game alot lately. "what if i could have done this or that to better support them or what if we had met before their abusive relationship." it takes a huge toll on my mental health. so sending you good vibes

That's interesting and a good insight. Did you ever feel the want to go back to any of these people later on and try again?

Thank you for the reply. It definitely helps to have it put into that respective. I also after thinking more about it I'm not necessarily frustrated with her but more so the trauma or situation. I love her deeply and it was hard not only to lose her but also watch her struggle with this...

Feeling incredibly depressed my girlfriend or I guess now ex has ghosted me for 6 weeks now. The last things we said to each other was I love you. I texted her a few times and never heard anything. The only thing remotely close was she view my Facebook story. It's ɓeen hard 4 months since she...

Feeling pretty low at the moment it's been a month since I last talked to my partner with trauma. We both said I love you to each other at the airport. Than she has ghosted me since than I've reached out twice and nothing. She had been battling her trauma for a bit and was going back and forth...

I get that. Unfortunately people that want to be in a relationship with me don't come around very often like years. So it's hard to give up on one.

I'm not sure what to do at this point we didn't get a chance to set any kind of limits before she pulled away. Now I don't even know if I should contact her.

It was only once so I didn't take it to heart.

Thanks

Do you let him contact you when he's ready or do you contact him?

Felt horrible when my partner told me she "was dreading me coming back from a work trip"

It's definitely hard I don't even know if I'm in a relationship at this point of they see it as over.

So just some back story I have posted a few other posts about my partner. So me and my partner have had a rough few months due to her being triggered. We slowed our relationship down due to her needing space and time. Basically we've gone from texting and talking each day to text every few...

I had originally posted this as a response in the general rant section, however I'm interested to see how other supporters handle this. So before my partner pulled away she always expected me to act the same way as her abusers in the past even after months of me showing her through my good...

That has to be exhausting and mentally draining