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You are welcome. Once I went to 2 churches whose teachings did not support best practices in medicine. I had to leave.

And I have no control over his grand daughter. But hypervigilance= illness death disability loss of relationships legal issues etc.

I have ptsd ftom catastrophic illness cardiopulmonary arrest..Transgenerational trauma ftom my family of origion. Husband is a veteran. He believes in hypervigilance..I just asked him to some how assure me he would not react when the better response would be not reacting pause stop..He is...

Update my fsther. Fathers day. Hard work me reviewing enmeshment. Definitely happened to me..So today I called my father just to wish him happy father's day. I know before hand to limit topics. We just briefly discussed the weather. He lives in MO. I Live in NM. In my earlier post I mentioned he...

I read your post earlier but now just having time to respond. I have had hypothyroidusn since 1990 most likely caused by being prescribed lithium. I had quite a history of being over prescribed by psychiatry. I was not bi polar. Or any other of the diagnosis given me. What really happened-...

I do have empathy for your pain and suffering but I don't have anything to offer. My trauma came from enmeshment codependency dysfunctional family dynamics first now deceased husband addiction to online porn. Working as nurse. Then catastrophic illness involving cardio pulmonary arrest. I had...

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Thank you. That helps me a lot. I need to work with my thinking - CBT DBT. I need to relisten to podcasts from Tim Fletcher Teri Cole on enmeshment trauma. Relearn review these dynamics. I do not want nor expect any inheirtance. My mother is dead. He lives 1900 miles away. He is having to use...

The guilt and shame come from being overmedicated by psychiatry for diagnoses that were not valid. Depression bipolar etc when it was all rooted in dysfunctional family dynamics. I became codependent a people pleaser very anxious etc. What should have occurred much sooner then it did- was...

I have childhood teenage adult enmeshment traums behind my ptsd and catastrophic illness in 2014. I am not going to blame mom dad family of origion forever. I refrained it to cause effect correlation long ago so I could coperate with my physicians therapists etc and take responsibilty for...

My apologies to all for my posts

Hey. I have 2 dogs. They are my ESAs. Posts about sexual activity with dogs is re traumatizing for me. What good are posts from the community if the person who originated the post has not indicated they took any initiative to work on himself or herself? Where are boundaries here saying no? I am...

I like your cimment regarding meeting your needs by helping addicts. I can apply it to me. With codependency in my trauma history I need to be sure now that I care for myself my husband my dogs first. That my oxygen mask stays on all the time if necessary.

Any history of head trauma concussions TBI neuroloogical surgery seizure activity? Have you had a physical exam blood work by a primary care provider?

I am not sure. I am always looking at my own situational vulnerabilities when I attempt something new. AKA triggers stress overload codependency traits. My concern for myself if I did this is would this lead to some kind of relapse for me? Relspse where my self care goes out the window?

I have made the decision that my interaction - phone call - with my father yesterday is relationship ending. There is no way I will ever get any validation from him. I refrained the situation to get another look at this. These facts are true. My parebts were 23 when I was born. Born with...

I can have anger issues too. I have ptsd but as a child my emotions were taboo. Any. So I learned codependent traits and fawning. I have an app on my phone called I can say no. It helps me navigate situations I should not enter in the first place. I document what happened did I say no how hard...

Yes I think so. I recognize thr fawn response in me the guilt shame that results in me resuming contact. My father is a bully invalidating etc. Other family members experienced this from him too. I had to ask myself last night what do I want from him. I want to talk to my dad. He is at the end...

Well. I see myself via your post in my latest interaction with my father which I just posted. Why am I signing up for this? With my father? I will continue to be blamed. What I allow will continue. I mean no disrespect just want your insight about you. Ok. The kid peed in the pool. What would...

I understand. I am still working with myself on STOP PAUSE HALT. Plus since the situation in the US is dire- poverty fear stress etc - do I need to go to the store etc at all? Do I need to say that?

Another issue. My father again. My post is part political as my transgenerational trauma is linked to my families core beliefs. Their Christian core beliefs racism etc. Ok. I know I am responsible for some of this. My father has narcissistic traits. Is controlling. As a child my emotions- anger...

Research politics link to ACEs and not resolving them. It helped me.

I am so sorry for the abuse and trauma you have gone through. I live in the US. I have had trauma recovery here with therapists and also domestic violence treatment. I don't know about resources in.SA. This forum is very helpful.

I would suggest learning about coercion undue influence how this can interfere with critical thinking and potentially abandon best practices in medicine for holistic medicine and perhaps groups like this. Not sure exactly what you experienced but beliefs are not facts. If beliefs interfere with...

Why do doomsday believers alienate people but keep it up? Husbands beliefs resulted in this with me. To be right at all costs- that is a heavy price to pay. I visited a church today The am service. First time in 7 years. The priest has helped me process the current events in the US and keep me...