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It's not that I didn't see it coming. I knew it was a possibility. It did happen faster than I expected. But I did see it as a distinct possibility. I just kept getting overwhelmed, thinking about doing it. I only obtained my birth certificate a few years ago. When I left home, my parents at...

I am sorry he does that. Have you told your dad it makes you uncomfortable?

First of all, as has already been pointed out, I specifically asked for this not to be about politcs. Next, if you want to have a discussion regarding issues, I'd advise you to ask questions and not use inflammatory language such as "duped" or make assumptions. For your information, I...

I found I'd started a reply to this a few days ago and never finished. I appreciate everyone's replies. @Movingforward10 Thank you, it does feel like you understand. I guess I'm still stuck on some of the comments that were made. I feel like some come with false assumptions. Maybe some of that...

My dad did a lot of bad things but I loved him and still do. That's ok. It's not surprising you don't have a lot of feelings about what's going on. My guess is you are in survival mode and will process emotions more when you get out of the situation. I agree that telling someone is a good idea...

A reminder, this thread is not for political debate. Please don't demonize any side of the political spectrum. All of you who are saying stay away from mainstream media and do my own research, I agree. I appreciate that. I've already done that for decades. I do get the message that I can...

As @Friday outlined, normal is challenging because no two situations are the same. I learned to look at things in terms of the impact it had on me. Was the fact that my dad was always slapping or grabbing at my butt harmful to me. Yes. For many reasons. He would actually laugh when I ran past...

They started that a bit. After the first, intro post, you only get AI response if you go to the section for AI response.

I'm sorry you have been through all that. I have also used the bathroom as a safe space when I was a kid. Except I would get in trouble if I stayed in there too long, so I had to find a balance. A bit of time to have calm. I hope you find the forums helpful. There is a lot of great people and...

Standing by a waterfall in the PNW.

Thanks for all the replies, I haven't had TV for years (decades) so I already don't watch mainstream news. I do get news from the internet but am very picky about my sources. I am feeling resistant to all the suggestions of not checking the news and am trying to check myself on that. To be...

First off- this is *not* a post to debate politics. The current state of politics in the US directly impacts me and people I care about. This is not a distortion. It also looks like things could get a whole lot worse for me and many others I know. Yes, things could get overturned. Yes, things...

I guess I've gone full circle. There was a time where I wished strongly that I was dead. I am not amazed I survived the years of chronic suicide idiation and self-harm. I definitely felt guilt. Mine was more about all the people I know who didn't survive. Here I was not wanting to be alive and...

I agree with what Friday says. Not that there can't be things about the person that you miss, but that's still a very new relationship. It's ok to miss that feeling of being in a relationship. Do you have thoughts on where you go from here?

I understand feeling the shame, but if someone else made this thread how would you judge them? Would you be able to show compassion? If so, try to remember you are the same as all of us. You make mistakes. You struggle. You are worthwhile. You can learn and grow.

I have been there with that length of break and symptoms and for me it wasn't sustainable. I don't really have any good advice but I relate and hope things get easier. Also, I love your name.

Welcome to the forum. I know how hard it can be when life piles on stressor upon stressor. For me, when that happens, I have to narrow my focus to the now. How can I make things better for now. Eventually that leads to building the sustainability to keep going. I am probably saying that poorly.

my old T said something very similar to me. I am now married and have a healthy, consensual and sexual relationship. Having said that, I think that there are still situations where I wouldn't be able to consent. Not with my partner. I think part of navigating my past was learning to recognize...

That sounds awful. How are you doing now?

Yes, cheated is a good word. It's a sad thing, when parents can't provide the love and care they should. I've come to learn that sometimes they can't acknowledge the abuse others did because it would mean they need to deal with all the ramifications. They are incapable of taking on the hurt...

I am done trying to talk to this particular manager. I have actually brought this up. All she will do is ask me what I've done to fix the situation. She will then come up with some lame brain idea to improve efficiency that has nothing to do with what's actually been discussed. Ok I have done...

So, the department I work at right now is pretty dysfunctional. For many reasons, not just the ones I am going to mention, I am trying to get out. Currently, I am a bit trapped. I feeling a lot of resentment regarding one particular coworker. I feel it's out of porportion and I don't get why I...

Just wanted to say I can relate. Dealing with something similar.

Oof that is a lot and really hard. I think adapt is a process and there is probably bits of adaption that have already happened but it's easy to miss when so much is overwhelming. I am not good at taking my own advice here, but I think the focus shouldn't be on work but on rest and recovery...

I agree with the others. Anger towards abusers and enablers is a reasonable part of the process of healing. I am curious why your therapist thinks blame isn't helpful? How do they feel it's impacting your healing process? Sometimes talking through those things with your T can lead to really...