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I purposely trigger myself sometimes too. I think it’s because when you have PTSD there are unprocessed memories so sometimes you brain really wants to process them and move on.

I recommend “Tortured” by Victoria Spry. It is a difficult read as it has lots of triggers for abuse, but it makes you feel less alone reading about someone else’s experiences.

Yes, the police were no help whatsoever and made me feel worse

I’ve come to the end of my EMDR therapy, my therapist is allowing me 1-2 more sessions. So far, it’s not worked at all! I’m still traumatised, there has been no difference, if anything it’s made it worse. I have C-PTSD- trauma from childhood and adulthood. I’ve had CBT, counselling and now EMDR...

I’m sorry to read about what happened to you. Like others have said, if you have PTSD, it doesn’t get easier in time, the trauma remains frozen and unprocessed. I would suggest finding a psychotherapist, the first step could be going to your GP and they could signpost you. As my therapist...

I joined this website two years ago or so, but I’ve never written in the introduction forum. I have CPTSD, childhood and adulthood different types of abuse. Currently undertaking EMDR therapy. I have had counselling and CBT in the past. I am hoping the EMDR therapy helps reduce PTSD symptoms...

Whenever I feel suicidal, I remind myself that my life has value, your life has value and worth. You are important. Suicide is never the solution no matter how damaged a person is. There are always ways of getting help and support even if you can’t afford a therapist. Internet is a huge help...

Thank you all so much for the replies. It is comforting to think that I’m not alone in this. I will read the links that were provided too. I had a therapy session this morning via phone that asked about my history, it was the first time I’d told anyone I have childhood trauma. I went to...

I’ve been looking for articles online about this, but failed to find any. I have PTSD from childhood events AND from a traumatic event from adulthood. Does anyone else have PTSD from two or more unrelated events?

Sometimes finding a distraction can help, when I feel really down, sometimes I try to do something, even if is just cleaning, tidying etc. It doesn’t help every time, but sometimes it can pull you up a little bit. That seems to be the only thing that works a bit for me.

This is similar to what happened to me today. I went to the police to report a historical rape today (1.5 years ago) it took a lot of strength for me to do this. He told me to tell him what happened first so he could get his head round it all. I went through it all, telling him exactly what...

I am pretty sure my rapist has a new girlfriend. It just really irritates me how he gets away with everything and he’s ruined my life. I think of what happened everyday and it’s messed up my life and he just gets to move on and have a happily ever after. I feel really angry and fed up.

I would suggest thinking carefully with regards to telling your friend. You have to be prepared for them reacting in a way you might not have predicted/he may ask questions you might not want to answer/might ask for more details etc Just remember you can tell him as much as you’re comfortable with.

I have two separate incidents that have given me PTSD. One of them I can discuss with therapists, my friends and family know about it etc so although it’s difficult, I can at least talk about it sometimes etc However, my other PTSD was from childhood and I have never and can never talk about...

I totally understand. I am in a similar situation, I’m still in contact with the guy who raped me, which is probably even worse than just checking up on him through social media etc. I guess it’s best to follow the advice above, social media only shows the surface, you don’t know what his...

Yeah because it’s so hard to talk about to people that haven’t experienced it. I do have friends I can talk to, but I just feel like they don’t really understand. My counsellor was helpful (I was only allowed 7 sessions due to demand as it was free counselling through work) but I felt like...

Counselling and CBT helps, maybe look into that if possible. I know what you mean though, there aren’t as many online resources as I thought there would be, I’m not sure if I’m just not looking in the right places though.

Well to me, it doesn’t matter what the reason is why a woman doesn’t want to have sex with a guy at that moment. It’s irrelevant whether the reason was lack of protection. Maybe I’ve read the first message wrong, I don’t know. If someone said to me “I don’t think this is a good idea” I...

Hmmm it doesn’t seem right to me that she’s said to him she doesn’t think this is a good idea and he’s taken that as consent and gone ahead. It seems like he’s made that decision for her.

If she said “I don’t think this is a good idea “ she is CLEARLY trying to say no. It’s not easy for all women to just say NO directly to a man in this situation. Why is it always the woman’s responsibility to make sure she’s saying no loud and clear to him? Why isn’t it equally the man’s...

If you didn’t want to do it and it came across as sounding unsure to him, that doesn’t equal a yes so he shouldn’t have made you do it. You are right to blame him.

Thanks for sharing. I think the “perfect victim” mould often stops victims from speaking out, for fear of being judged/not believed. So many people are so quick to judge how a victim “should” react and behave.

I had my counselling session today, I’ve decided to block the guy’s phone number and blocked him on WhatsApp so from now on, he can no longer contact me. I’ve signed up for cognitive behavioural therapy sessions so I’m on a waiting list. I would strongly recommend anyone reading this to not...

I have a counsellor, but I only see her once a month. Yeah, I should probably look into more options. I think the problem is - when I listen to his excuses and he says he’s sorry, it’s easier for me than when I think about the fact that he may not actually be sorry and he did it on purpose...

I have tried a couple of times cutting him off completely, the longest I lasted was about 2 weeks :( We talk less frequently nowadays, but even so, I know it’s unhealthy having any kind of contact with him. I’m not sure how to completely cut him out. I don’t even like him, I just feel like I...