Sexual Assault Am i the only one? i feel so alone. why am i not able to find a resource when so many deal with this

[Yoli]

I know that I'm not the only one with sexual trauma, according to statistics I am super super not alone... but i feel so alone in this and upset and hurt. I looked up so many resources and I found nothing! Why am i not able to find a resource for something so many people are dealing with? I hate this so much! I already have so much shame and just last week i was so motivated to finally get the help i have been needing but I'm having no luck and I am giving up. I opened up to my friend a little bit but she really doesn't understand and i hope that she never does understand. I just feel so alone. it feels like no one understands what its like to live with flashbacks, hiding, amxiety, night terrors, not being able to do certain things anymore... it changed my life completely and no one understands it...

 

[Skywatcher]

I have felt that way before as well. It is really hard to explain it to someone. What helped me at first, was the bookstore and amazon. I went to the psychology/self help section and browsed through some on ptsd and rape. Then, I began therapy. My trauma therapist has been very helpful. I also go online and research symptoms that I have. You really aren’t alone. It just takes time to find a good support system. You will be okay and will get through this!

 

[EveHarrington]

Where do you live?

What have you tried searching for?

:hug:

 

[ItsNeverTooLateToTry]

I know that I'm not the only one with sexual trauma, according to statistics I am super super not alone... but i feel so...

Don't worry, you aren't alone. I didn't seek help for that type of trauma until this past couple of years. I dont really know why there aren't so many easy to find groups. I only know by word of mouth that there are so many other people.
I too, was ashamedbut I guess so many other terrible things happened to me , I overlooked it.

I don't knowwhat happened to you but it wasn't your fault. That person is a pathetic excuse for a human being. Don't allow him or her to have the power to keep hurting you. Sexual assault is often a crime of power, work on getting YOUR power back. Learn how to protect yourself, get some mace and a whistle. Learn from what happened and try to figure out how you can keep it from happening again.
The shame you carry isn't your shame, it's your attacker's. Don't let that person have the power to burden you. It's not easy but, you have it in you!

 

[Friday]

The title doesn’t apply, but the resources listed in this post may begin to help you out, depending on location >>> Are you wondering if you were raped? read this first.

Similarly, if you google “Rape Crisis Center YourLocationHere” unless you’re very rural, you’ll most likely find many local resources, and if you are rural, sate/province/nation resources.

 

[User88]

Counselling and CBT helps, maybe look into that if possible. I know what you mean though, there aren’t as many online resources as I thought there would be, I’m not sure if I’m just not looking in the right places though.

 

[shimmerz]

I gave up on receiving help from 'agencies' or whatever a long time ago. My main go to is finding people online or videos on youtube that can help me understand what has been happening to me. It works well and is quite empowering.

 

[User88]

Yeah because it’s so hard to talk about to people that haven’t experienced it. I do have friends I can talk to, but I just feel like they don’t really understand. My counsellor was helpful (I was only allowed 7 sessions due to demand as it was free counselling through work) but I felt like sometimes I couldn’t say everything I wanted to say in case she thought I was weird.