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I will try that. Thank you @backslide I definitely need to try something new. I feel stuck in my old mindset and I keep having to remind myself time has passed. I will definitely give it a go.

First of all... Welcome to the forum and I hope you find it as supportive and useful as I have. I'm in a similar situation now where I've opened the box but can't put it back in. My advice to you first of all, above all else is to look at the things your head is telling you and try to look at...

Kind of on my last nerve. After trying to face my demons and thinking about it too much I feel completely empty. I keep snapping at the dumbest things. I've broken two teeth - to the point where there is not much left to salvage - just from gritting my teeth in anxiety. I've lost my motivation...

Definitely something that helplines need to work on. I guess someone could always bring it up with a particular helpline through email etc. and they would hopefully take it into account. Afterall, it might be something they haven't thought of. There's a helpline in the UK called Breathing Space...

That means a hell of a lot to me. Especially the way I'm feeling right now. From the bottom of my heart... Thank you!

I'm sorry you were feeling that bad. It doesn't really matter the gender of the person who offers support as long as it also caters to men in crisis. In the UK it was only recently that new support services and helplines were introduced. Hopefully it will be easier in time for people to get...

That says more about her own fantasy than anything else. I think it's one thing writing about crime as a work of fiction... But to cloak it with some kind of misguided purpose or social justice crap is just ridiculous. You don't empower victims of anything by targeting and belittling others...

Also, I don't think there should be a divide between men and women who have gone through it. If everyone put gender aside, it would make things better as people often forget guys can be victims too. I'm sorry this has triggered you. Things I see on the news, media, hear on the radio and every...

Thank you so much. And sending hugs back. I hope you find peace with this struggle too. It is exhausting as it feels like you can't check out and catch your breath with it because it is constant.

I agree. It's like someone trying to prove a point about racism against one demographic by doing the same thing to others. It doesn't prove a point and it isn't okay. It is just as wrong and messed up. Women have also been known to be sexual predators of all varieties. People don't tend to focus...

Hey there, Just needed somewhere to vent I guess. I feel like every day is a struggle. Does this ever get easier? I reckon mentally my association with the best it's ever going to be is distorted. I never had a chance to be or feel normal. I'm afraid of being happy sometimes because my head...

I will talk to her. I think I needed to hear that. Going to talk to her in the morning when she wakes up. Thank you for everything you said. It really helps.

I draw and I got a musical instrument I have sitting there I'd like to learn. And I also have a gym I never get round to using. I guess it's time I engaged in it and did things instead of leaving it to a perfect day that never comes. I really appreciate your reply. Any input is helpful to me as...

Thanks for your reply. You're right. I feel weak and I don't want to worry her because she can't fix it even though she'll scour her brain as to how. I feel like pushing everyone away and nobody needs to see me like that. I will talk to her. I just find it hard to as instinct tells me to hide it...

Sorry, just saw this. I've had a very busy week and haven't checked in. I'm sorry you're going through that too...

Hey there, Been a while since I wrote. I've been putting on a facade that I'm happy go lucky lately. Everybody seems to buy it and they think I'm fine. Just like I want them to. Figured also that if I fake it long enough it'll be real. But that's not working so far... I'm emotionally numb...

Esterio - I had a clock smashed over my head for a punishment when I was a child, but no ill effects as far as that goes. There are big gaps in memory where I know things happened. If I prod at the memories long enough, I remember in vivid detail what happened but after a couple of days it goes...

I've been having flashbacks the last couple of weeks and have noticed I have gaps in my memory. For example, I can't remember what I've been doing the last week. I feel like there are days missing when this happens. I remember snippets. But it feels like a faded old memory, not something recent...

Somerandomguy - I think I will start that thread later on. If it's something I can work on and it sparks off a conversation that helps others with that issue then that would be fantastic. Rez - It actually means a lot to hear someone else feels like I do. The problem I've always had was I have...

Somerandomguy - I'm not currently in therapy. I don't have the money to go to private doctors and the NHS (UK) can only do so much. It's weeks between appointments for it and they don't so much give you the tools so much as expect talking about it to be the big breakthrough. I can talk about it...

One thing that hurts a lot is the fact that I'm a bloke and was sexually abused as a child, and then subsequently as a teenager, makes me feel emasculated. Logically I know it's nonsense and it does not make me any less of a man. But emotionally I feel like someone strips my confidence away...

You can have PTSD from that. You don't need to question that. People get PTSD from witnessing violence towards others for example. They were not physically harmed but it is a memory and image they can't process. You were targetted, subject to extreme fear and coerced into unwanted sex while in...

It is quite common in people with your past. It can also be a side effect of seizures in sleep, a UTI, structural damage etc. or anxiety. It could be a number of things, but my advice would be to visit a doctor. Be honest with them about your concerns and they will help you figure out what it is...

Just want to thank you both for writing in. It really made me feel better seeing your posts. I am on meds (beta blockers and antidepressants) and used to go to counseling. More than anything it was time and just slowly setting myself goals and routines that got me better. Helped me rebuild my...

I'm sorry you went through that too Chiqui. I agree... We do it to ourselves but it's one of those things that you only realise when the damage is done. It doesn't usually have such a cost to my mental health when things like this occur but for some reason I feel like I've undone my progress...