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Greetings... Not sure if it will strictly help, but within the last week I'd finished reading sort of a rewrite and elaboration on Dorthy Tennov's Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love from 1979 titled Smitten: Romantic obsession, the neuroscience of limerence, and how to make...

Greetings... At mercy of the same basic dynamic here; i.e. various memories of interpersonal disempowerment 'on shuffle' within my head, whereas without much conscious input from myself, I time travel back to the time, back to the moment and role play much more aggressive defensive strategies...

Trying to keep this reply short - always a struggle this. Staged and carefully calibrated reveals with regards to one's personal history consistent with maintaining reasoned boundaries versus suddenly divulging core trauma that predictable overwhelms a listener seems best. Alienating people...

Thanks for your detailed reply and interest expressed, whereas I suppose what's recorded below constitutes Part II of my tale of invisibility: Just mulling things and for recent reading of what might be termed social aggressive/bullying literature as it relates to secondary school experiences...

Not intended to trivialize or harm this, just some reflections based upon how I very imperfectly cope... Worse in previous years whereby it was almost like time travel where I'd pick up some moment in time where the dynamic was off between myself and another or group of those seemingly allied...

Maybe not the same thing here, although with my father it seems he didn't want a third child when I arrived, while I suspect there was hot debate between him and my mother to the extent of what he might contribute in the form of care should my mother carry me to term. What resulted was...

Well, as a positive, structural changes baked in and just across the horizon are going to avail you the ability to place distance between yourself and your parents and all legacies suggested, radiating from, and in a manner of speaking - waiting to be explored - albeit just not right now. Not...

Greetings and no claim to ultimate authority as I write this... Similar profile here in relation to CPTSD, disassociation, a deep reluctance if you will to engage others in public (and work) environments where I just feel wholly uncompetitive and too dysfunctional to hide or mask my despair for...

Greetings... Regret that others negotiate life with similar profiles and implied hinderances, unfortunately very familiar with the experience of CPTSD, hypervigilance and boundary issues, disinterest ranging towards contempt of family (mostly disinterest given I seem - seem - to be...

Variations on a theme here... It's very possible to register fatigue in relation to maintaining a societally venerated poise consistent with extolling the worth of service, of sacrifice, of giving all without complaint. Past public and academic librarian here, whereas it helped (in measure) to...

Sorry - I'll try to keep this short... A touch angry, but mostly embarrassed given what would appear my appalling lack of discrimination with regards to the people I let into my life. One estranged friend died earlier this week after largely losing control of his life and failing utterly with...

...forgive me if I've misunderstood the question. For myself as of late I've imagined the best qualities of a potential life mate and have taken a pen and paper which I scribble atop the question 'What's wrong?'. In essence I'm setting up an emotional support blow up doll of a sort, not...

If it helps, I found it of value to review what would be understood as an elaboration on the fight or flight response as articulated by Pete Walker. Something added to the mix is neither fight or flight, but rather 'fawn'; i.e. to freeze in place hoping if you will for the threat to dissipate...

Sorry for your present circumstance. For searching out material in relation to problems encountered locally, after a time I did stumble across the following website to which I've provided a link. More thoroughgoing if not harder edged for reflecting the complexities of the New York real estate...

Greetings and I'll try to be brief even as I so often fail in this regard... A certain ambivalence felt in relation to outreach made in my direction from a sister who for long has regarded me as essentially untouchable. I'm a little at sea at present, 'happy' that 'relations' have been...

If it helps, sometimes the issue and tendency will be termed a 'boundary issue'. If someone bursts into conversation with others they scarcely know and appears to divulge very personal information in a manner that borders on reckless, the keen sense of embarrassment rooted in overexposure to...

Just mulling things, feeling the need to write then... Recently I'd caught up with someone I vaguely knew - someone else thought oriented to reading, to study, to something akin to independent scholarship or self-styled intellectual pursuits. Given my isolation, perhaps I hoped for too much in...

Hopefully I can keep my reply short, trying if you will for something metaphorical... If only for myself (maybe this would constitute the 'radical' angle), my use of the concept could be likened to the production of a film. Imagine if you will having a very sophisticated and telling script in...

The environment in which I was raised and still reside is largely working class/lower middle class at best. Geographically, I'm situated in a declining light industrial ring suburb outside of the physical decay if not urban squalor of Detroit, MI. The cultural and intellectual milieu afforded...

For myself, I see a standard issue '70's boy who (mistakenly) imagines his family to be the BEST! It certainly didn't occur to me that the dynamic I was threaded into was by any means substandard, let along dysfunctional or damaging. Children are wired to attach, wired to trust parents...

Oh - it's certainly O.K., I definitely give off that Prussian aristocratic vibe when my copy is read, and this unquestionably has caused me problems. It's odd too given my longstanding habit of diving back into the books to better clarify what's amiss and/or unknown, while if anything my...

My unerring capacity to find hostility online. In relation to social media I tend to restrict myself to hobby interests only, and yet interests related to and rooted within other interests and facets of identity leak out. When this happens, all bets are off. Interests include matters rooted...

Greetings, Just a tangential relation here, but barking dogs really elevates stress levels for me to the extent that I live very much in isolation and haven't a car. How this plays out is that often I must catch a bus or walk to where it is I might go, while to be perceived by four legged ones...

If it helps, there is a legacy of those who've established a habit of penning letters never to be mailed. The practice of organizing ones thoughts concerning material difficult to communicate or so touchy that a relationship might not strictly recover if sent in 'full strength', but personally...