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    Broke up with my therapist - Do I tell my partner these things?

    I feel like in general we share an overview of our therapy sessions. The things we worked on. Key insights. Aha moments. Some things in detail On the one hand I think my partner would greatly appreciate me breaking up with her considering what happened. I don’t think I would say specifics...
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    Broke up with my therapist - Do I tell my partner these things?

    Honestly, I know he would handle it really well. Even if it hurts on some level. I want to share. I feel like it’s a secret but I’m willing to bury it to save him any stress. I will forget about it eventually. I feel like it negatively impacted things with us for a short period of time. I’ve...
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    Broke up with my therapist - Do I tell my partner these things?

    Broke up with my therapist officially. I started seeing my old one on zoom that moved away before the pandemic. Now I can see her again because of zoom! I was seeing this newer therapist since right before the pandemic. I’ve never broken up with a therapist but I have felt very uncomfortable...
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    Managing my inner critic while in a new relationship - very vulnerable post

    Thanks for sharing that you can relate. I feel so alone with those behaviors. Like a monster in a cave. As an update things are better. He has made some changes and so have I. We are both committed to making things work.
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    EMDR stuff - Tonight while working with a young part in therapy I started to sing “baby mine” to it.

    Tonight while working with a young part in therapy I started to sing “baby mine” to it. I only remembered one line and couldn’t place the song or voice. Initially I was humming it to my very young child self. Later I looked up to line and saw it was from the original Dumbo movie and I...
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    Nightmare

    More nightmares tonight and waking up sweating. I’m on the couch now trying to cool off. They weren’t even bad nightmares but something was so scary. I was avoiding a room with scary breathing tiptoeing to my room. I thought it was my partner in our bed when I got there but maybe not. Started...
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    Managing my inner critic while in a new relationship - very vulnerable post

    Thank you! I’m trying to be more open about what goes on in my head. Get it out and not just feel shame.
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    Sufferer Looking for support - Childhood trauma, abandonment, relationships, & triggers.

    Thanks for the reply!! My problem with being triggered at this point in my recovery is sorting out what is distortion and//or what maybe a red flag or legitimate issue that also happens to trigger me. So challenging. After years of abuse I have a hard time trusting myself. With triggers I get...
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    Sufferer Looking for support - Childhood trauma, abandonment, relationships, & triggers.

    Yes, I agree. And thank you. I set lots of boundaries and have been saying my needs. He has decided to take a break from that recovery friend since I just keep getting triggered. It has come to a point where if I keep having to deal with severe triggers every week I won’t be able to continue. It...
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    Nightmare

    I know I’m really stressed when I start having nightmares again. My BF had to wake me up twice last night. Someone was trying to kill me. They were hurting me. Scaring me. I was offering them money to stop. Then I thought I saw my cat and started saying “kitty kitty” in a little kids voice in...
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    Managing my inner critic while in a new relationship - very vulnerable post

    This is the truth. Very vulnerable post. Please go easy on me. Trying to find ways to manage my inner critic while in a new relationship. Makes me very insecure. Says lots of body shaming stuff, ugly etc. Goes on to say he’s not really in it despite proof otherwise. I get into bad behaviors...
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    Partners also with trauma

    I see what your point is. Thanks for sharing! Thanks for the reply. I’m trying to reach this point. I’m learning to step away and self soothe when I have my abandonment triggers. Sometimes it takes awhile. I have someone willing to be there when I’m ready. I’ve never had that so it’s scary. My...
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    Partners also with trauma

    Is anyone else dating or in a relationship with someone with trauma too? How do you make it work? I feel like my partner and I are just in some kind of trigger cycle that won’t break. I’m exhausted. I’m in therapy and so is he. Both in our 40’s. What’s your story?
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    Sufferer Looking for support - Childhood trauma, abandonment, relationships, & triggers.

    Thanks. I had therapy and I feel better. I was just in that abandonment wound place of pain and no escape. I think I see what is going on now in a much clearer way.
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    Sufferer Looking for support - Childhood trauma, abandonment, relationships, & triggers.

    Hi everyone! I’m 46 and have CPTSD with a history of childhood abuse, neglect, abandonment trauma and all that goes with it. I was married for 10 yrs to a partner that didn’t do any self work and was an alcoholic and emotionally abusive at times. I’ve done loads of trauma work (EMDR,IFS) and...
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