QuirkyLady22
New Here
Broke up with my therapist officially. I started seeing my old one on zoom that moved away before the pandemic. Now I can see her again because of zoom!
I was seeing this newer therapist since right before the pandemic. I’ve never broken up with a therapist but I have felt very uncomfortable since September.
She canceled a lot in November and December. One appt she took half an hour on scheduling (not exaggerating!) and was behaving strangely. I asked her numerous times if we could just schedule on email. The session that followed went poorly. After that I reached out yo my old therapist to see if she had openings online.
I kept seeing her for a few visits hoping things might change since she lives in my state but they didn’t. The last visit we had I told her the name of the person I am dating. She knows this person from recovery circles and I she gave me her opinion on them. A negative one. Saying various things.
This scared me and I was also uncomfortable. I didn’t tell her initially who he was because I didn’t want her opinion good or bad to influence my therapy. Then it was a sort of bad opinion.
So here’s the thing. I broke up with her. Do I tell my partner these things? ? I feel like it affected my thinking for a few weeks because she’s was my therapist. It made me doubt things. Have more fear.
I ultimately decided to make up my own mind. I’ve decided she is right about done things but wrong on so many others. This person has actively made changes in their life since being with me. This person isn’t abusive or mean to me. They are doing the work. History of trauma like me.
Thoughts? I’m worried if I tell my partner he will feel bad. I want to tell him because of what I went through. Now that I broke up with her it seems like a good time.
I was seeing this newer therapist since right before the pandemic. I’ve never broken up with a therapist but I have felt very uncomfortable since September.
She canceled a lot in November and December. One appt she took half an hour on scheduling (not exaggerating!) and was behaving strangely. I asked her numerous times if we could just schedule on email. The session that followed went poorly. After that I reached out yo my old therapist to see if she had openings online.
I kept seeing her for a few visits hoping things might change since she lives in my state but they didn’t. The last visit we had I told her the name of the person I am dating. She knows this person from recovery circles and I she gave me her opinion on them. A negative one. Saying various things.
This scared me and I was also uncomfortable. I didn’t tell her initially who he was because I didn’t want her opinion good or bad to influence my therapy. Then it was a sort of bad opinion.
So here’s the thing. I broke up with her. Do I tell my partner these things? ? I feel like it affected my thinking for a few weeks because she’s was my therapist. It made me doubt things. Have more fear.
I ultimately decided to make up my own mind. I’ve decided she is right about done things but wrong on so many others. This person has actively made changes in their life since being with me. This person isn’t abusive or mean to me. They are doing the work. History of trauma like me.
Thoughts? I’m worried if I tell my partner he will feel bad. I want to tell him because of what I went through. Now that I broke up with her it seems like a good time.