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You sound like a lovely, compassionate person who has grown into someone with self awareness who is capable of remorse and has a willingness to make amends. Not everyone manages this, particularly so young. Some people will never show that kind of growth! Your pets forgive you and want you here...

I was talking to my husband yesterday about our childhoods. I felt fairly calm when talking about his and was able to offer a listening ear and empathy. When I then shared a tiny bit about my dad and admitted how scared of him I had been, I immediately felt small, shaky, anxious and about to...

Deflated, overwhelmed, sad. I was going to say "stuck" too but I don't think this is true. I'm experiencing difficult emotions but they will pass and in the grand scheme of things I'm moving in the right direction. It's just so slow and it's hard not to get frustrated sometimes.

Thank you! Oh what a lovely coincidence, that made me smile. I entirely relate. I always struggle to think of online usernames but looked around me for the one constant, grounding presence in my living space that brings joy and there they were, the beautiful trees.

Yep, I think you've hit the nail on the head there really. I think blame can only really be called unhelpful if it's used as a way of avoiding our responsibility as adults in the present day to accept our circumstances and work on ourselves. This really doesn't sound like the case in your...

I agree entirely. I had what I can only describe as a mental breakdown three or so years ago and it's really been the small, positive, consistent changes in self-care (pretty much everything you've listed!) which have helped me start to work my way out of it. Learning about nervous system health...

I have chocolate 🥰

Hi beckyblue10, thank you so much. ❤️ I'm sorry to read that you're on the same journey as I know how isolating and hard it is, but glad that there's another person here who understands. I hope you can at least find some community in spaces like this (and I have the same hope for myself if I...

Hi E.G.T., I'm really glad that posting online is helping you. I understand completely how the anonymity helps, I personally find it very difficult opening up in person. Good to have you here. 🙂

I hear you, I'll never understand it. I'm so sorry that your mother is incapable of giving you the recognition and support that you deserve. Mine kept silent and turned a blind eye when I needed her and I understand the betrayal. It's such an isolating, shame-inducing feeling. Sending you warm...

I'm sorry you've been through so much, sidptitala. I've barely shared anything outside of my family of origin (which has sadly resulted in greater distance from them), but when the subject of my father has come up elsewhere people have generally assumed that we must be close and that "deep...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had to make the decision to have my dear little dog put to sleep at the beginning of April this year under similar circumstances. She had been going downhill for a few months and an urgent trip to the vet eventually revealed a tumour on her liver. It's such a...

Thank you, I'm dealing with a bit of overwhelm today so this was really reassuring to read! 😊

I'm glad you discovered what works well for you. You're so right, I will keep dipping with what seems to work! And aim to keep working it. I'm definitely guilty of assuming I'm 'healed' after a while and then forgetting to put all the tools I've learned into practice, which never ends well...

I feel...unsure and a little bit vulnerable. I had to really search inside for that though, my instant reaction was to say, "Umm, I think I'm ok!" 🤔

Thank you all very much for the warm welcome. 🙂 It's been such a helpful book for me and I think it's the only thing I've ever read twice and dipped back into over the years. I think it resonates so much because Pete Walker often describes his own healing from trauma and it's quite clear that...

Hi everyone. I'm not formally diagnosed with C-PTSD but it's been on my radar for many years and I experience pretty much all of the symptoms and difficulties. I'm so avoidant and socially anxious that the thought of getting a formal diagnosis terrifies me and I've been putting it off. I deal...