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Hi All,
I am new to this so just a short intorduction on my life.
I met my now wife 8 years ago at the time things seemed normal and we developed a life together became very happy and had two amazing children. However throughout this period she would be up and down in her moods over a very long period of time say after 2 years she would become very low but then after a couple of months things would brighten up again. She had discussed with me a few times that things had happend to her but (naively now I know) she said she was handling it. About 6 months ago she then told me she had had enough and wanted to get help as she was sick of feeling up and down and wanted to get better so we enlisted help with a psychiatrist and for the last 4 months she has been going once a week for a session. Since she started things have got very dark and it is really getting her down reliving the past which I guess she has just shut out before now. Its worse for me as I want to help and know all I can do is love and support her. I am raising the children practically now and I im trying to keep her involved with the activities we still do. To her credit she is fighting tooth and nail to beat this and I admire her so much for it but when I tell her she doesnt believe what I say and doesnt think she is handling it very well. My hardest partin all this is dealing with the mixed emotions coming from her I guess, one day she seems to be fine and were acting normal but then in the blink of an eye she can become very stressed very easily and then she just wants to be alone and I try to give her the space she wants. I have also been reading on here about how we cant become too onesided and let the sufferer become selfish and give them everything but how do I know when that is?? I will be with her for as long as she wants I have always believed we were meant to be and the past things we have gone through has only made us stronger as I believe this will eventually as well.
Anyway sorry to bore you all with my story but I guess I just needed to vent my fellings as well I will be remaining an avid follower of this site from now one. And I think it is great that this site has both sides of the coin which is so helpful
I am new to this so just a short intorduction on my life.
I met my now wife 8 years ago at the time things seemed normal and we developed a life together became very happy and had two amazing children. However throughout this period she would be up and down in her moods over a very long period of time say after 2 years she would become very low but then after a couple of months things would brighten up again. She had discussed with me a few times that things had happend to her but (naively now I know) she said she was handling it. About 6 months ago she then told me she had had enough and wanted to get help as she was sick of feeling up and down and wanted to get better so we enlisted help with a psychiatrist and for the last 4 months she has been going once a week for a session. Since she started things have got very dark and it is really getting her down reliving the past which I guess she has just shut out before now. Its worse for me as I want to help and know all I can do is love and support her. I am raising the children practically now and I im trying to keep her involved with the activities we still do. To her credit she is fighting tooth and nail to beat this and I admire her so much for it but when I tell her she doesnt believe what I say and doesnt think she is handling it very well. My hardest partin all this is dealing with the mixed emotions coming from her I guess, one day she seems to be fine and were acting normal but then in the blink of an eye she can become very stressed very easily and then she just wants to be alone and I try to give her the space she wants. I have also been reading on here about how we cant become too onesided and let the sufferer become selfish and give them everything but how do I know when that is?? I will be with her for as long as she wants I have always believed we were meant to be and the past things we have gone through has only made us stronger as I believe this will eventually as well.
Anyway sorry to bore you all with my story but I guess I just needed to vent my fellings as well I will be remaining an avid follower of this site from now one. And I think it is great that this site has both sides of the coin which is so helpful
