Sexual Assault About the #metoo hashtag

[Deleted member 44517]

My husband is confused by my reaction too.

 

[The Albatross]

Personally, so far as the hashtag, I don't mind putting my stuff out there for public consumption occasionally however I pick and choose wisely. So yeah, "Me too" but I won't be hash taggin' about it... to me it's more potentially beneficial for somebody or myself in a recovery forum. Hetero and don't feel stressed or left out about it... but jumping on trend bandwagons aren't really my thing. I like to pursue more meaningful things and until one presents itself... I'm not inclined to participate.

 

[r0s1e]

Hi,

Anyone seen the "#metoo" going around on social media?

I had to get off social media today becau...

Thank you for posting about this. My whole week has been messed up because of it. I hope people are being enlightened... I have about a thousand problems with it, but the biggest thing is that I know I still have 9 mutual friends with the person who assaulted me, so facebook seems like possibly the least safe place to try to have a conversation about it. Social media is also my job....

 

[Deleted member 28740]

Never joined Facebook. Don't like how it can and does manipulate. This use however I do "Like" it exposes SA as an acceptable and hidden wide spread culture. Those experiences of SA to hide and the shame and guilt as though it was our fault.

Triggers yes, but for the greater good of releasing the damned up harm and trauma, and to say NO consent means NO. YES means YES, and a safe word if it is with consent up to a point then NO. Outing these monsters is a new norm.

Shallow breaths and vomit as I process this interior outing, then some deep breaths, than hope that enough of hiding - no one should be defiled and the defiler no be brought to justice. Rape culture must be out in the open and confronted.

Good media to watch on this issue of trauma: Louise Godbold: “My Encounter with Harvey Weinstein and What It Tells Us About Trauma” | Democracy Now!

 

[New]

Hi,

Anyone seen the "#metoo" going around on social media?

I had to get off social media today becau...

YES! I am so glad I came on here tonight.

This week has been very hard and triggering and I’ve felt such shame for not posting me too.

I should have known you all are having the same feelings.

So glad to feel understood.

 

[Scheh]

I am still fighting to bring to justice the doctor who assaulted me in South Orange New Jersey. The nurse who was in the room was never questioned. She worked with him for 29 years. This week gave me courage. I see that men in position of power are protected by law enforcement.

 

[simplysawa]

Hi,

Anyone seen the "#metoo" going around on social media?

I had to get off social media today becau...

I have seen and had a few issues with the metoo thing. At first i thought it was good that maybe people were listening now, but then there were people making jokes and saying women lie or exaggerate (which some do) its hard to deal with thatt specifically cause i have a real problem with people lying about it, it makes it that much harder for people who really need help to get it plus alot of people think women are speaking up for attention. Ive tried to be public about my past but am still very vague. Its really too much to post about anyways and i just can't bring myself to say certain things yet. The fact is most of the people observing these people sharing stories dont understand unless they experienced something similar , and it is hard to be bombarded by it on a site you feel fairly safe. Im guilty of sharing articles and videos about pizzagate cause it home so hard for me and i wanted people to see its real, that it wasn't just some hoax or publicity stunt, that people have experienced those things and that i have memories or recurring nightmares of places where it takes place. I was really wanting people who are interested in investigating to see if what i recall could reveal more of the system and possibly help stop them. And i have found, there are people acting like they want to bust those groups but are doing it for attention or recognition. Just sick that these people are trying to use victims for their own gain in this movement.

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

It’s been quite hard this week with all this. I’ve just deleted my social media for a break from it all. I’m really glad people are talking about it but it’s just too much at the moment. I feel really guilty that I’m not participating. It’s really shit that it’s always the victims responsibility, to report so the perp doesn’t hurt anyone else to raise awareness and generally not to get raped. I feel somehow like I’m letting people down by not sharing. I did think I could post about any other sexual harassment and assault stories I have and leave our the Capital T trauma or just like some others have done no stories just the me too bit.

But my pain isn’t for mass consumption. I’m not in a position to feel safe to share and it’s shit that I feel somewhat pressured (mostly self inflicted) to do so.

It’s really sad there’s still this disbelief and oh she’s just attention seeking or it can’t be THAT bad bullshit. <- that reaction that is the main reason I have disabled Facebook. That and the you must report standard response.

Plus the fact I still feel the need to protect everyone I know from the pain they might feel because of my experiences. I haven’t told anyone about my diagnosis because of the dreaded “why” and “how”. no one knows and I can’t be supporting other people because they feel sad about my CSA and rape.

 

[New]

It’s been quite hard this week with all this. I’ve just deleted my social media for a brea...

Yep

 

[Ambivalent]

Yes. And although I like that it shows it is a HUGE problem in our society; I didn't like that it brought up feelings again. I feel like all those years I 'returned to normal', are totally gone, and I'm at square one again. I've got to work through everything again.

 

[foxeevee]

Honestly, I thought I was alone on this but it has really been triggering me especially as I am coming up on my second year anniversary. Thank you for this post. One of the best things I have ever done was delete my facebook but this #metoo phenomenon can't be escaped. It is especially hard because my traumas were centered around someone very high on the social ladder abusing their power. I'm all for the hashtag as well but I am glad you have reached out and made this post.

 

[hodge]

It’s been quite hard this week with all this. I’ve just deleted my social media for a brea...

Please don't beat yourself up! Please just take good care of yourself and do what you need to do. Those of us who are a little stronger or much stronger will take up the burden for us right now, okay? This is how it works. I do my little bit as I am able. So do others, as they are able. Maybe you can do nothing right now, and that is totally okay. Because your job now is to take care of yourself. Let those of us who are further along take up your burden. Someday, when you are stronger, you will take our place and take up the burden for those who aren't that further along. And so the societal healing and education will go on, little by little, as we heal and get better able at spreading the word. but, for now, just focus on taking care of yourself and leave the heavy lifting to those of us who are farther along, okay?