Jen.armyairborneranger
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Good evening. I am in a relationship with a retired Army Officer that was an Army Airborne Ranger, now private pilot for a charter flight company that caters to oil company execs. He has been inactive for several years but did countless tours and has seen the unimaginable.
While deployed on one of many tours in Afghanistan, his wife (and mother of his two children), texted that she had an affair and wanted a divorce.
Following his retirement from service, a mutual friend introduced us. He is 41 and I am a 31 year old RN. His friends, family, coworkers and children have thanked me for saving his life. They say he is different since he met me. And I can see a very viable and clear change in who he was, to the carefree, trusting, loving and actually LAUGHING person that he has become since I met him.
His 12 year old daughter thanked me on Christmas for the best Christmas ever, because her dad finally had fun with them and he'd never done that before he knew me.
ANYWAY, we're perfect when we are together. Due to my job and his, he flies and I work at the hospital 2 weeks out of each month... We are off the same time, by our own choice. And there are zero complaints when we are together, except that his form of PTSD has affected his intimacy... We have sex 2 or maybe 3 times during our two weeks off together. I don't mind that. It's worth it... We bring out the very best in each other when we are together.
BUT... He flies for two weeks and isn't home... We aren't friends on Facebook because I've been told I don't want to see the women that post "come ons" To him on a daily basis. I know in my heart he wouldn't have sec with these people... But why must he continually talk to more than 10 other women on a daily basis? Four of them sent Christmas gifts to our home - that I had to sign for and calmly hand over to him when he returned in two weeks.
My exhusband cheated on me and is now remarried to my maid of honor, so clearly I have se trust issues in that department. But am I wrong for wanting him to not talk to these women? He says they're o my friends. But these women clearly think they stand a chance. ... And don't get me wrong: he is a beautiful, in shape, responsible, well funded private pilot... So to these loser single moms, I'm sure they think he's "golden", but I make my own money and I love him for him, not for his money.
Do I have a right to ask for these o line relationships to stop? How does PTSD lead to this? Is this some need for validation on his part? ...
I'm at a loss, never been a women for a man in uniform. They always worried me... Go figure! All help welcomed!
While deployed on one of many tours in Afghanistan, his wife (and mother of his two children), texted that she had an affair and wanted a divorce.
Following his retirement from service, a mutual friend introduced us. He is 41 and I am a 31 year old RN. His friends, family, coworkers and children have thanked me for saving his life. They say he is different since he met me. And I can see a very viable and clear change in who he was, to the carefree, trusting, loving and actually LAUGHING person that he has become since I met him.
His 12 year old daughter thanked me on Christmas for the best Christmas ever, because her dad finally had fun with them and he'd never done that before he knew me.
ANYWAY, we're perfect when we are together. Due to my job and his, he flies and I work at the hospital 2 weeks out of each month... We are off the same time, by our own choice. And there are zero complaints when we are together, except that his form of PTSD has affected his intimacy... We have sex 2 or maybe 3 times during our two weeks off together. I don't mind that. It's worth it... We bring out the very best in each other when we are together.
BUT... He flies for two weeks and isn't home... We aren't friends on Facebook because I've been told I don't want to see the women that post "come ons" To him on a daily basis. I know in my heart he wouldn't have sec with these people... But why must he continually talk to more than 10 other women on a daily basis? Four of them sent Christmas gifts to our home - that I had to sign for and calmly hand over to him when he returned in two weeks.
My exhusband cheated on me and is now remarried to my maid of honor, so clearly I have se trust issues in that department. But am I wrong for wanting him to not talk to these women? He says they're o my friends. But these women clearly think they stand a chance. ... And don't get me wrong: he is a beautiful, in shape, responsible, well funded private pilot... So to these loser single moms, I'm sure they think he's "golden", but I make my own money and I love him for him, not for his money.
Do I have a right to ask for these o line relationships to stop? How does PTSD lead to this? Is this some need for validation on his part? ...
I'm at a loss, never been a women for a man in uniform. They always worried me... Go figure! All help welcomed!
