Advice on quitting super early after after receiving notice you'll be let go of / fired in a month ?

[fish-vs-water]

There is good reason for my quitting early (both emotional and logistical).

But how do I do it??? Like what can I say and when?(I do realize at this point it's last minute no matter what). I have exceedingly low self worth and so any way I can imagine it is just devastating. I am trying so hard to be kind to myself for once in my life and it is so goddamn hard. The fear of upsetting anyone, the fear of me showing sadness/brokenness at work...is killing me.

I'm even afraid I somehow won't wake up in time to get there...and I don't have to be there for 9 hours...

I am scheduled to work tomorrow (Wed) and I feel like I have to quit before my next shift (Fri). They asked me yesterday to leave in 1 month, but stay on the sub list if I wanted. And I said that was fine.

My work environment is very social, and a lot of the people are nosy and catty. I am positive I will be prompted about what my plans are for when I'm done with my current job by 5+ people during my shift tomorrow. I can't tell you how much I am dreading going back there, even tomorrow.

To make matters so much worse, I already asked for Friday off.... :| A coworker said they would cover me Friday. So I told my new employer I could work Friday. A day later my coworkers backed out on covering me. And then the day after that, I found out about getting let go/ fired whatever. Meanwhile, I didn't even know I was for sure HIRED at my new job. I didn't want to annoy them and tell them 'hey this came up they backed out I can't start this Friday anymore' if that was going to influence their choice in hiring me. I felt so bad after being "let go of" that I definitely didn't think the new employer was going to hire me, so I didn't think about trying the last resort person to cover me at my current job. I might still text them in the morning and ask, but they are rarely free and wanting to cover.

I have thought about just making up a lie -which I would feel awful about but I don't have any better ideas right yet...
And a lie where I have to go out of town asap just won't work because it would be found out that I did not very quickly (it's all-female, many of them in their early 20s, only like one in 6 are not gossipy...andddd unfortunately I have ties to some of them outside of this job/they'd know I didn't go out of town).

TL;DR: For many many reasons, it seems like the better choice for me to start my new job on Friday/not miss my first day there, although I'm already scheduled at my current job for Friday.
I could make all my other shifts @ current job until the end of the month, but that seems so so horrible because now the thought of working there seems like a shame pit, since they decided this would be my last month scheduled, ya know what I mean.

Appreciate any and all advice/thoughts/empathy...

 

[Suzetig]

If you have a new job to go to and your current employer has given you notice I'd just tell them you're going to go now rather than hang around. Your co-workers may well ask what you're going go do but you don't need to tell them - just say you've not decided yet but you've been given notice and just want to leave.

Or if that feels too much for you, phone in sick and don't go back.

 

[fish-vs-water]

If you have a new job to go to and your current employer has given you notice I'd just tell them you're...

Thank you. It's now 7 hours before I need to be there and I've been worried sick about how tomorrow will be. I may just go with one of things you said after all.


Or like a combo of the two hah. I mean, I couldn't possibly tell my coworkers that I've been given notice and am just going to leave now, that is too much yeah, but I will tell my boss that as the reason I won't be coming back. Saying I'm sick... well then my problem would either get worse by being told I'm 100% fired even to be on the sub list, or having this dread of going into that job continue onto next week :| . At the same time, I should have emailed by now if I had not frozen in time and had instead thought this far about it, so they could plan ahead.

 

[LadyZane]

It took me a long time to learn this, but a job is a job -- it's something YOU have to serve your own needs. You have to do what's best for you, and you don't owe an employer anything beyond basic professionalism. They've already told you your time there is wrapped up--if another opportunity comes up before the clock runs down, you're well within bounds to take it. If they give you any negativity about it, just take it gracefully and shrug it off, bc it's not your problem :)

 

[VioletButterfly]

Totally agree with @LadyZane! Employers will lay you off in a heartbeat. It's all about their financial bottom line. So, this is about your emotional bottom line. You owe them nothing. Parting line: "Oh, I've had a wonderful opportunity come my way and I'm starting on Friday." It's all true. You have a new job, get going and good luck. :tup:

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

"I appreciate the heads up regarding my departure and am grateful for the many learning opportunities you've presented me with. I've been offered a position elsewhere and choose to move on sooner rather than later. Farewell."

 

[Abigail7]

You're stronger than I am! I'm
Still baffled how anyone feels any comfort being employed by another given that you can be fired at any moment for any reason (although the official reason will be something legal). It's as if employers are telling you that you must be perfect without telling you exactly how to be perfect, a royal mind game! I could never deal with that stress.

 

[fish-vs-water]

You're stronger than I am! I'm
Still baffled how anyone feels any comfort being employed by another given that you ca...

Thanks for your thoughts. I don't know if I'm necessarily stronger than you - I'm terrified of NOT being employed by someone, despite having a couple things that would allow me to freelance. To me, that's more brave ;)