This is my first time on this site. I found out about it from a book I am reading.. I see that there are others like me. I feel alone or invisible. My husband has PTSD from serving in the Army.. He dosn't like to talk about what happened at all and has said that he probably will never tell me.. He does see a therapist once a week.. I hate what this is doing to us as a couple.. I feel like I can't talk freely like I used too. He doesn't even touch me or say I Love you anymore.. I am in this for the long haul. We have two kids and it is hard for them, too.. I am just looking for guidance and a way to vent.. like everyday.. I have only talked about this to my parents and mother in law.. They just don't know... I wanted my husband to talk to my father, who was in Vietnam, but he said no. I just don't want to feel alone anymore.
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Heather
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Hi knitbug - you're definitely NOT alone here sorry to here it is so tough for your husband. sounds like it's not easy on you either. you'll find a lot of support. Vent as much as you need to! it will help to get it out. There's tons of info. here as well. take care and welcome. Heather
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thank you for the encouragement.
amethist
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Hi knitbug
It is hard for all sides of the PTSD coin. But the most important thing you must do first and before anything else, is to make sure you and your kids stay well, in all aspects. This will make it easier for you to stay strong and keep going.
Not saying I love you or any of the usual couples stuff, is part of all that is going on in his mind right now. Read as much as you can especially the articles on the "Home Page", the stress cup one maybe the first on your list. This will give a quick heads up to what is going on with him, then go on from there.
Vent as much as you like and ask as many questions as you need to, it does help knowing we understand most if not all of how this effects you and your kids.
There is no quick fix for him and no guarantees of how this will work out in the future, but we will be honest and supportive with you.
Take care.
Amethist
It is hard for all sides of the PTSD coin. But the most important thing you must do first and before anything else, is to make sure you and your kids stay well, in all aspects. This will make it easier for you to stay strong and keep going.
Not saying I love you or any of the usual couples stuff, is part of all that is going on in his mind right now. Read as much as you can especially the articles on the "Home Page", the stress cup one maybe the first on your list. This will give a quick heads up to what is going on with him, then go on from there.
Vent as much as you like and ask as many questions as you need to, it does help knowing we understand most if not all of how this effects you and your kids.
There is no quick fix for him and no guarantees of how this will work out in the future, but we will be honest and supportive with you.
Take care.
Amethist
Hi,
You are not alone! I recommend you read "Trauma & Recovery" by Judith Herman, M.D. This is not a "self-help" book but a exploration of PTSD in an historical context from domestic violence to military and political terror. As a survivor with PTSD it is one of the few books I found resonance with. It gave me tremendous releif to know that I am not a "prisoner victim" of my own personal story but part of a greater struggle. I recommend it as insight offers choices and the confidence of alternatives empowers any victim of isolation.
This to shall pass.
You are not alone! I recommend you read "Trauma & Recovery" by Judith Herman, M.D. This is not a "self-help" book but a exploration of PTSD in an historical context from domestic violence to military and political terror. As a survivor with PTSD it is one of the few books I found resonance with. It gave me tremendous releif to know that I am not a "prisoner victim" of my own personal story but part of a greater struggle. I recommend it as insight offers choices and the confidence of alternatives empowers any victim of isolation.
This to shall pass.
Behindthemirror
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Have you thought about getting couseling for yourself and your children? PTSD affects the entire family unit and you all will need just as much support as your husband. I can't speak for him but I can say that I am not the same person I used to be. That is not to say I don't love my spouse and children I just feel very distant from everyone. Feel free to email me anytime you want to chat and try to remain strong for yourself and your kids. You're in the right place for support!
Sunshine71
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Hi knitbug and all
It is very challanging isnt it? I think its very sad too.
My husbands PTSD isnt from the war but from other traumatic circumstances.
We have 1 young son.
If you feel like dropping me a line please do. I do feel quite alone - and this is something my husband has said too. He feels alone. I did see a counsellor and it was good to talk - this was paid for for me - maybe the army offers something simular???
I also found that the Samartins have local branches and you can see them or call them too.
I hope that we both get through this horrible time.
Sending you love and positive vibes :O)
It is very challanging isnt it? I think its very sad too.
My husbands PTSD isnt from the war but from other traumatic circumstances.
We have 1 young son.
If you feel like dropping me a line please do. I do feel quite alone - and this is something my husband has said too. He feels alone. I did see a counsellor and it was good to talk - this was paid for for me - maybe the army offers something simular???
I also found that the Samartins have local branches and you can see them or call them too.
I hope that we both get through this horrible time.
Sending you love and positive vibes :O)
HopefulChristian
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You aren't alone!!!! My husband is a Marine and doesn't like to talk about his deployments.
ISupportHer
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I am joining the chorus. You are not alone. My spouse's PTSD is not combat related. There is perhaps some differences, but I'd venture to say our feelings as supporters is very similar.
Glad you are here.
ISH
Glad you are here.
ISH
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