Relationship Am I Being Abused?

[Tom Mintz]

Everyone says it is no one's fault, everyone says don't place blame. Then why do PTSD suffers hurt us carers so much. What's worse the exact things she is yelling at me about, such as abuse, feels like it is exactly what she is doing to me.

Scared shitless and can not find help.

 

[MurphyJB]

PTSD is NOT an excuse to abuse people.
Verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse.
She might not know she's hurting you while she does it, but that is still not okay.
Have you talked to her about it?

P.S. Welcome to the forum. You're not alone anymore. :)

 

[Tom Mintz]

I try talking to her but she is shut down to me right now, for two months now. the first month was nothing but how useless, horrible I am. The last two weeks have just be cold and empty. I loving kids, but I feel like no one will talk to me. I am the househusband and I have little or no friends and no outlet. She told me not to talk about her on here anymore. But what am I really suppose to do, shut down too. I am hurt and crying. inside and out.

 

[MurphyJB]

I don't really have any amazing advice...sorry.
But hang in there and stay strong.
Venting on here helps me a lot.

 

[Tom Mintz]

Are you a carer or a sufferer, I think I have become both.

 

[RosieNorth]

Hi Tom, If she's telling you that you're useless and horribleand then shutting you out , that's totally wrong.

 

[MurphyJB]

I'm a carer.

 

[tangerinetrees12]

Tom, is she on medication or seeking therapy? It sounds like she's dealing with some awful things, I'm sure none of which are your fault. She hasn't properly learned how to deal with them, and so she's lashing out. She needs to learn how to manage her emotions. Until then, there's nothing you can do to help her.

*hugs*

You might want to consider getting help for yourself as well. I am a carer and am doing the same thing.

Until then, just continue venting and writing and exploring your thoughts. Take care.