My husband and I met in the Navy, we were both Corpsman. I've been out for a while, he's still active. We've been together almost 16 years. He has PTSD. It's been an issue in the past. For the past 2 years he has been stationed in VA, our daughter and I love with My in-laws in Kansas while I finish school. In March he had a major flare and was self destructive, he was trying to force me to leave him. He has gotten help, he has a psychatrist, counseler and is now on medication. he thinks too much damage has been to done to save our relationship. Depending on the day he is nice, considerate maybe even a little affectionate other days he is a complete..... There are no words to describe the way he treats me or speaks to me somedays. His mother is telling to divorce him. I can't walk away after all this time without trying to fix anything because he was not himself. I think I put tentative plan is he is going to work o n himself, I'll work on me and then later we will try to fix us. I have a therapist on Talkspace, I'm trying to set one up in person.
I'm just at a loss as to how to deal with him. He's completely detached. His therapist suggested he make friends through social media and learn how to talk to people again so he can take to me without screwing it up. The last week or so I have been bouncing between anger and apathy towards him. I'm not sure why, I don't mean it. We've agreed to have simple, stress free conversations during the week and once a week we will have a serious discussion. I've got my list for this Sunday ready to go. Maybe after that discussion the anger and apathy will improve. I feel like I'm in a state of limbo. I think he may be right, as much as I want to be done with and close the chapter of my life where he screwed up, I don't think I've dealt with it.
Anyone have suggestions on how to deal with him?
I'm just at a loss as to how to deal with him. He's completely detached. His therapist suggested he make friends through social media and learn how to talk to people again so he can take to me without screwing it up. The last week or so I have been bouncing between anger and apathy towards him. I'm not sure why, I don't mean it. We've agreed to have simple, stress free conversations during the week and once a week we will have a serious discussion. I've got my list for this Sunday ready to go. Maybe after that discussion the anger and apathy will improve. I feel like I'm in a state of limbo. I think he may be right, as much as I want to be done with and close the chapter of my life where he screwed up, I don't think I've dealt with it.
Anyone have suggestions on how to deal with him?
