Attacking Members On The Forum Affects Other Members!

[AngelaMarie]

I had something happen the other night. There was a comment by a member and at first it hurt my feelings. I didn't react, I thought about it, and everything ended up okay. I am trying to remember that we all have had different traumas and maybe some of the posts trigger different responses from different people? Personally, even though it may feel uncomfortable I appreciate the opportunity to get a thicker skin and learn to be around differents kind of people with different ideas.

 

[becvan]

I like all the posts in here! Njray, I just have to say.. I think my humor button is broken.. cause your post made me scratch my head.. and go.. wth? ROFL So I had to wait for someone else to post to figure out if you were pulling our legs or serious! :p

bec

 

[alixipain]

Now--group hug :tup: ... wait, wait, no that would be a trigger for many. :roflmao:

What the heck wraps arms around all!!!! HUGGSS

 

[Nicolette]

Anthony does seem to "get it" a little more than others. .

Abbi this is the part of your post I wanted to quote and support (add comments on to but couldn't due to being on a mobile phone):

I can't quote what Abbi wrote as I can't edit such a large post on my phone but will say this.

I actually thought my post was quite appreciative of Anthony's time and efforts here, he

I was agreeing with you Abbi and elaborating my point of view. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[Abbi]

All good :D

 

[Reclusive]

I still see this place with rose-colored glasses. Considering the participants especially, this is actually one of the most civil and supportive forums I have ever witnessed, even with little blips here and there. I appreciate the work the mods do, especially, because they take the time to be considerate of our disorders and quirks when reminding us to behave ourselves - no one else out there does that, that I know of.

 

[Abrasky]

I like this forum. There is an ability for people to learn freely, without being harassed. Everybody is able to have their own opinion. It is also possible that some people find learning threatening. My husband this learning thing, he is a smart man but he still finds it a threat if people question his intelligence or something. Because his mother attacked learning when he was growing up and kept telling him that he needed to come down a peg or to. I have to admit, I have to keep telling him he is smart to disarm this anger he has when ever people feel the need to disagree with him. I have a degree so I'm not smart but I'm educated. This degree which was directly about learning for life skills and we learned about different types of learners (visual audtiory experience ect). Everybody is programmed to learn differently. Unconscious learning progressing from conscious learning for skills like driving. It is all very interesting.

 

[anthony]

Yep... nobody knows everything, and smart people can be intimidating. A good mate of mine is one of those people with a memory that remembers most things he reads, so he can recite something he learnt 10 years ago. We used to be chatting away in a conversation, he would hear something incorrect, then chime in with his intelligence and put us all in our place. Needless to say... he didn't do well getting up the Army rank structure, considering most of the people he would shoot down where even above him, as well as below, in rank. Very intimidating mentally... but not physically.

He's still a good mate of mine... just haven't seen him in a while.

 

[Brontie]

goingonhope,

Never say never. Lol!!!! {{Hug}}

We can all have a bad spell where we are not as supportive as we would like to be. It's the sign of a good board where people are given the support they need at such times. And the less sympathetic contributors are kept off our back by the more understanding members.

 

[Brontie]

AngelaMarie,

I’m sorry you were upset by something someone posted. I’m sure it wasn’t intentional. {{Hug}}

I would like to take this opportunity, as I'm sure a few others on here would too, to ask anyone who is upset by anything I post to give me a chance to apologise or make myself clearer. I think some triggers are inevitable given the topics, and we can all have shitty days.

 

[AngelaMarie]

Brontie,
Thanks very much for the comment and for the hug. I sure can use the hug today!:inlove:

I know it wasn't intentional. I have always been extremely sensitive. I am learning to overcome it and realize that just because someone disagrees with me doesn't mean that it's personal or that we can't have contact in the future. I have started learning that courage from being on the forum. Also, the supporting comments, like yours, help very much!:)

 

[anni]

I've been here long enough that I sort of now gloss over what feel like 'icky' posts, to be honest. The political thread someone said colored their impression of the forum is one which is probably bound to have strong opinions and feelings behind it- it's politics so....yea. I'm sorry that's the one which caused negative feelings since it's really not at all typical of the forum. The thing about this forum is that you absolutely know it's being beautifully monitored to not get too far afield or out of hand.

I missed whatever other contentious threads were tooling around but generally do. Honestly do just tend to ignore them these days completely if I do happen to not be a a fog that day and come across one. There's enough to worry about out here without having the adrenaline levels fed by something here. I just can't afford to and figure the poor mods will have things wrapped up by the next day, or until the next full moon. :)