Beat Till I Bled

[drum1forU]

Yea fairly new about six months. I kind of need to say it. I need to say it to someone that understands what I go through on a day to day basis. My wife has no concept of what goes on in my head and to tell her would be just words. She has some idea of what i went through as good as anyone I let get that close. Thank you for reaching out to me I needed that.

It is my anniversary tonight and I'm going to try to put this down and think of better things Namely a dam good meal, one bite at a time ;-)

 

[onebravegirl]

Happy anniversary!!!!
I do not think that telling your wife would just be words. If you tell someone who loves you and knows you, they care and it pains them to know the hurt you carry. It also can be relieving for them because at least they know what is happening a little better than before. Sharing this battle is what "for better and worse, in sickness and health" is for.
Eat well, goodnight,
O

 

[drum1forU]

I need to get some advise on what would be a good way to help my wife understand what i live with.
any suggestions.

 

[helena]

Hi Drum1,

It depends what you exhibit, but if you are constantly getting angry, raging etc then it would help to let your wife know what is going on in your mind and emotions leading up to, during and after the outburst.

From the outside lookin in, witnessing a rage is usually the most frightening of things and it actually does not make any sense because non-sufferers would not get triggered over something we see as 'trivial.'

If it is anxiety, again saying how you feel physically, mentally and why you have to isolate. It really does depend on what your wife complains about. If you read some of the carers posts on this site, it generally is about isolation, being pushed out, doubting that they are loved and so on.

I am glad you are trying to beat this and look forward to getting to know you.