Being Extra Kind To Oneself Thread

[izmo]

I thought that.. with ptsd and all, it's most likely that a number of us are too hard on ourselves.

So this thread is to write goals that relate to being extra kind to yourself.

I'll start:

1) I will be more appreciative of the soothing sounds that I listen to. My favorite sounds consist of certain underwater sounds and also the sounds of wooden chimes clicking together.

2) I will learn to rest and stop over working when I need it, even if it means just listening to soothing sounds or taking naps.

3) I will indulge more in the things that are fun to me, even if it means getting lost in the story of the TV series that I like to watch or thinking about the video games that I play.

4) I don't really have the best fixed sleeping pattern at night, but that's okay and I shouldn't beat myself over it as I've gone through a lot in life. I will take frequent naps, as I do and I will recover from exhaustion.

5) I will give myself internal positive reminders over small victories. Even if it's as small as,'' hey it's okay you completed a lot of the other work'' or ''remember that time you smiled a lot in that photo.''

 

[Justmehere]

I love this idea and you have some great goals!

For me:

1.) when I make mistakes, I will work to refer to it as "I made a mistake" and just that, instead of my more typical verbal self abuse of "I totally screwed up and I'm a failure..."

2.) I will keep an accomplishments journal/list and once a week, every Friday, I will try to make a note of one thing I did well that week, even if it was simply just "I ate a healthy breakfast Wednesday morning."

That's all I've got for me so far...

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I will not be so hard on myself and enjoy my life with my family to the fullest. Great thread.

 

[The Albatross]

1) I will try to be kinder about myself about my appearance.

2) I will resume a time for meditation or deep relaxation each day, even if it's 20 minutes.

3) I will have some fun once a week and go to a Zumba class (because it makes me laugh and I don't do that nearly enough).

 

[onesie]

I will take a chance and choose to make my own decisions. I will spend the extra money on hair products, because I too, deserve the best. I will treat, and live for myself, just like I do, for others. Great thread. I'm so loving this idea. Thank you. ;)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Drinking a glass of wine and relaxing after doing some errands. Spending more time with my family.

 

[Changing4Best]

Great idea for a thread!

I will continue going for walks, with my dog when I can. I even have a rain poncho and rain or hiking boots, so this makes it safe no matter the weather.

I will listen to: thejoyfm.com on my computer, as it is very pleasing to me and makes me feel extra good.

I will continue to do church and its various functions during the week.

I enjoy reading, so I do a lot of that.

I will get off my phone with folks who drone on about their medical problems, unless they pay for the minutes.

I will continue to save money, a little each month.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I had a heart to heart with my daughter setting limits and boundries on her choice. I will find a friend to be with on the day she meets up with one of my abusers. I do not agree with her choice, but she is an adult and I am going to stay out of it. My gut is telling me to stay out of it. I really do not even want to hear how it went. I am in self protective mode now.

 

[Changing4Best]

It is 70 degrees F. outside and the sun is shining, our best spring day so far this year. So I took my dog for a walk in the park. The river was rushing by with small rapids in it, so beautiful. It has such a peaceful sound. In the stream there were tiny fish. Flowers were blooming and budding everywhere, but you had to look for them as they were tiny. Even the dandylions seemed nice, though most lawn experts would disagree, I'm sure. I saw a bluebird, his color was extraordinary. I really enjoyed myself, and I think my dog did too.

 

[Changing4Best]

A friend of mine died last night, so I called the widow and said if she ever wanted to talk that I would be there for her. I told her that my hubby had died too, and so I knew a bit about what it is like to be in her shoes, even though each situation is different. I was afraid to call for some reason, but when she thanked me for saying that, I was so relieved. It is a comfort to me to be able to comfort someone else, it feels right. And it helps with my grieving process about her hubby as much as it helps her, as he was a friend. I really don't know her well, but I want to know her better and be her friend. One can always be happy to have a new friend, so this should be good for the both of us.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I was feeling exhausted last night and did not do the things I usually do at night, like make the coffee for the next day so I lay on the couch covered by my favorite blanket and dozed off several time.

It was so good that I did that because this morning I have gotten so much done around here.

I am having a very good day and I feel very good.

Sheila I think that was a very good and kind thing for you to do with your friend. She will need a lot of checking up on and support this next year.

 

[onesie]

It is 70 degrees F. outside and the sun is shining, our best spring day so far this year. So I took my dog for a walk in the park. The river was rushing by with small rapids in it, so beautiful. It has such a peaceful sound. In the stream there were tiny fish. Flowers were blooming and budding everywhere, but you had to look for them as they were tiny. Even the dandylions seemed nice, though most lawn experts would disagree, I'm sure. I saw a bluebird, his color was extraordinary. I really enjoyed myself, and I think my dog did too.

Oh, I just love it!! That is probably one of the most important things in my life that I love too. ;) Walking, and soaking in the beauty of nature. I love taking my dog with me. It is so important for me, to have beauty still around me. Helps with the trauma. Glad you enjoy it too. ;)