Being Harder For Thankfulness

[Tanishq]

I think I am being very hard. I am thankful to only two things.

I am thankful for internet.
I am thankful for some facebook friends, this forums, email friends and some other websites.

When I try to think about other, nothing comes to my mind. Then I think I am not being good to my life. I am not thanking whatever I got.

I want to know, how do you find things to be thankful for? I check "thankfulness thread". But I end up being hard and nothing comes to my mind.

Help please!

 

[Meadowsweet]

I think it's more constructive to be thankful for the few special things that genuinely mean something, than to feel we ought to be thankful for anything and everything.

You seem to be being quite hard on yourself. To me, you're doing fine and it's great that you feel grateful for the things that help you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I agree with Meadowsweet. You are being too hard on yourself. It takes some time to train your mind to being thankful for the small and big things in your life. Sometimes I have a hard time being thankful. I have to really stretch my brain to come up with something. But I think it is a good thing to do. It keeps my mind dwelling on something uplifting and positive.

Try not to worry about it. It will come to you. It is the simple things of life to be thankful about. My heart goes out to you. Try not to beat up my friend Jaret over this, ok? Hugs

 

[Tanishq]

I think it's more constructive to be thankful for the few special things that genuinely mean something, than to feel we ought to be thankful for anything and everything.

Thank you for your help Meadowsweet.

I have to really stretch my brain to come up with something. But I think it is a good thing to do. It keeps my mind dwelling on something uplifting and positive.

It must be relaxing for you.

My heart goes out to you. Try not to beat up my friend Jaret over this, ok? Hugs

Ok my friend gizmo. I won't beat up myself. As I learned swimming, I will learn to be thankful,too. :D

 

[Bilby]

I think, perhaps, the more you think about it, the more things will 'come'. So... perhaps if you think of 3 things (or maybe just start with 1) that you are thankful for each day. For some time, it might be the same things, but then, you will find on some days, it will be different! :)

 

[Tanishq]

It will work Bilby. Thank you for your opinion. :)

 

[Bilby]

You know Jaret, I should actually practice what I preach. I tend to get a bit caught up in negativity and don't stop to think about the good things. I should really do this too.

 

[Tanishq]

I tend to get a bit caught up in negativity and don't stop to think about the good things.

That's the blockage. It blocks me from seeing the positivity and things I can't see in my life. It's hard as hell. I think we make it hard. It's our eyes that needs to be cleaned, so we can't miss good things.

I am glad to see your participation here, bilby.

 

[Bilby]

Thanks Jaret :)

 

[The Albatross]

Jaret, one of my former AA sponsors had been badly disfigured in a car accident - she had driven drunk. She was not expected to ever walk again. She lost everything, her job, her home, her husband, and her children. But in recovery in the homeless shelter where she lived, she still had to find things to be thankful for. One time, she said it was her pillow.

She was instrumental for me because her disciplined approach, no matter how large or small of the habit of thankfulness impressed on me how important the aspect of thankfulness and conscious acknowledgments of what I am thankful for works to improve and change my perspective. Very beneficial and it is good that you are acknowledging a difficulty in this area. It is, I believe called into your awareness, so that you can learn it.

 

[Tanishq]

Hello Alby. I often think and have a look at my past. It has bad memories, but I had great good memories,too. They are best and resets my mind instantly. It makes me think positive. Like you said god has plan. It seems god knows how is my path and what I need. This memories are rare. I feel like I am lucky that I had it and I had good people in my life.

It's alive experience. If I can't be thankful for this, then how I am going to build my life ahead?

 

[The Albatross]

It depends on the cut and caliber of the person you aspire to be. Who do you want to be? If I find I am lacking, I endeavor to learn. If you can adjust your focus in your daily living... I assure you, you will find something you can be thankful for. It is like adjusting a camera lense in order to bring something into focus.