Being Harder For Thankfulness

[Tanishq]

We KNOW we should be but it's a challenge.

I always wondered when people it is very easy to be thankful.

gizmo said it correctly and timely. It's an attitude of gratitude. As attitude takes time to develop, then gratitude can also take time to develop. I am getting ideas from this forums, not to be hard on myself.

 

[Tanishq]

I have never done that.

Me neither did in past. Sometimes I am thankful, but stop myself. This thread is help to me. I am able to find the roots what stops me from go with the flow gratitude.

I wish you the best. I am thankful that you are my friend, you are a very special person. Hugs.

Thank you.

You're a very special and kind person,gizmo. I appreciate that. :hug:

 

[safenow]

not to be hard on myself.

That's the best one yet, jaret. (((( Jaret ))))

 

[Tanishq]

For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue,

Can anyone explain me this word "must ensue"? I can't understand it properly. Don't know why. How to do that(ensuing)?

 

[safenow]

Following immediately and as a result of what went before = ensue
Happen afterwards as a consequence

I hope that helps, Jaret.

 

[safenow]

Here is more from that same page in his book:"Man's Search for Meaning," Viktor Krankl.

"Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. Listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long run success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think of it."

 

[Tanishq]

Safenow, I was thinking not to get attached with it. I have big issues of getting attached to outcome. Especially for success. LOL

I understand what he means. I tried to remind when I got happiness, it all were surprising and making me more happy. I was not attached those happiness. Success sounds like happiness,too.

Listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge.

This is listening to our own inner wisdom and intuition. Sounds more fun to me.

Well, I will try to use this for being thankfulness.

It makes sense to me.

 

[Britt.f7]

Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it.

I find it very interesting that you quoted this and I just read this part of this quote in a book last night. He did give Victor Frankl credit for the quote.

Maybe it is the universe's way of reminding me of this. I am way too much a perfectionist and as hard as I worked not to let it trickle down to my son, it has.

Very good quote!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have the book and it is rich with meaning. He said the ones that survived found purpose for their lives. I think my purpose is taking care of my husband. I am really helping him alot.

Jaret I hope you can find purpose in your life. You share so generously of yourself here, and I appreciate who you are. I hope for the day when you will not be so hard on yourself. Hugs.

 

[Tanishq]

Maybe it is the universe's way of reminding me of this. I am way too much a perfectionist and as hard as I worked not to let it trickle down to my son, it has.

Britt, no mum would be honest such as you are. I am proud my friend is honest mother.

 

[Tanishq]

I have the book

It's available on some community ebooks. It looks public website.

I think my purpose is taking care of my husband. I am really helping him alot.

Congratulations gizmo. I am glad that you succeeded in finding your life call/purpose.

Jaret I hope you can find purpose in your life. You share so generously of yourself here, and I appreciate who you are. I hope for the day when you will not be so hard on yourself. Hugs.

I will never forget this forum. I feel like I have begun the journey of not being hard on myself.

:hug:

 

[Britt.f7]

Thank you Jaret, that is a very kind thing for you to say to me! :hug: