So nice to hear people speaking positively about the benefits of massage here. I read so many posts of people who, through no fault of their own and due to sexual abuse are unable and unwilling to allow safe touch to help them relax. I understand why, as it can and does stir up emotional stuff and can also trigger bad memories that need to surface in order to heal, but it's such a shame. As a massage therapist myself I know how much it can really help people, and being the person who helps put them in such a state of relaxation and calm, I find it truly rewarding work.
I also love receiving a massage, but of course it is important to find someone you feel really comfortable with. It's a very vulnerable state to be in and it requires trust. In my experience, more females find it harder to push themselves to actually book for a massage. Women seem to have a harder time feeling like they deserve any kind of self care, and will often put it off in fear of being perceived as selfish...which is a mindset I would very much like to see be thrown on the fire and replaced with something more realistic. It is not selfish to want to give yourself such a nurturing gift as a massage, and if you aren't able to give to yourself, then you won't have much to give to anyone else.
Unfortunately many women don't work this out until they have given more than they have and literally breakdown and make themselves sick. Many males don't have this issue though. They feel deserving of being pampered. Obviously males who have experienced sexual abuse will have similar issues with being touched, and no one should push themselves to do something they are not comfortable with, but human touch is such a necessary thing for greater mental health, that I wish for them to be able to one day overcome what stops them and allow themselves to receive caring touch in a safe environment, when they are ready.