Can Be Cheated On Contribute To Creating Ptsd?

[anthony]

I disagree with the posters here saying that being cheated on cannot cause PTSD for a couple of reasons.

Opinions mean nothing compared to current medical diagnostic fact. This forum deals in facts, not your opinion, your wishes, your desires, all of which can be wrapped in the fluffiest blanket of good meaning ever.

A question is asked, and cheating is not on the list for PTSD, sorry. Cheating is already covered by an adjustment disorder, also a trauma and stressor disorder. You can have identical symptoms to PTSD, but PTSD is the name given to abnormally traumatic events, not normal expected life events, such as cheating spouse, naughty kids, arguments, normal death, so forth. There is a line drawn by the medical community, and that is what this forum follows, and not your opinion for what you feel should be acceptable here.

People really need to get focused and clearly define in their head, and differentiate between trauma, stressor and diagnostic label. They are not the same things. There are forums out there to support lesser stressful events and such... this is not that forum.

This forum covers topics outside of the PTSD qualifying spectrum for those with a qualifying PTSD trauma / diagnosed already. Again, that is different than supporting only a relationship breakdown as the traumatic issue here. Peoples relationships break down due to PTSD, thus we have such discussions and areas here for it.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Cheating can't cause PTSD as it doesn't meet criterion "A" of the diagnosis. I think that a lot of us would be offended that being cheated on (in the absence of any other criterion "A" item) would be considered anywhere near the realm of being violently raped or going to war and having your best friend violently killed right beside you.

Cheating can trigger past trauma into becoming full blown PTSD, but then again, ANYTHING on God's green earth can be a trigger. Really, anything. (There is no criteria for triggers, lol) My trigger was pretty tame in comparison, but it was easy to look back and see what the actual criterion "A" stressor was.

 

[anon87]

I agree with you Solara.

That's why I feel nothing but immense shame to have the idea brought to my attention by a concerned acquaintance based on his own experiences with fellow veterans. I have never served in the military. I have made it ever clear that I have experienced something involving criterion A. I will not discuss those experiences in a public setting and I shouldn't have to. Not to mention that I am being actively stalked and I will not disclose other personal information beyond what I already have. I am searching for ideas, organizations, literature or anything. I was under the impression that students performing their clinicals offer assessments and I've been calling hospitals with my query. If anyone has any ideas on how to get the ball rolling, or they know any literature I can pick up from a library, please let me know.

Unless any of you are able to get over the topic of the thread - please do not attempt to contact me in any manner. I hope I'm not being too unreasonable and I appreciate anyone's understanding. I don't want anything further to do with this and I certainly do not want to offend those who have experienced 'real' trauma as you've said.

 

[anon87]

The only elaboration that I feel comfortable sharing is that my experiences with violence are separate from infidelity. I was simply motivated to reach out for help after one of my daily night terrors which so happened to involve cheating. That is all I'm willing to say and I shouldn't have to say anything more to be somehow worthy of consideration and thought.

 

[anthony]

No, you have said enough and answered questions reasonably. There are simply people who think stubbing their toe is equal to rape, war, childhood extreme abuse and such, as they want a label that extreme trauma has so they can justify their own selfish hypochondria in social or employment circles.

 

[Mystery]

Hun, it sounds to me that you have been suffering at the hands of a narcissist, covert manipulator or something much worse perhaps.

 

[joeylittle]

Can you see your General Practitioner or Primary Care Physician? The worst insurance policies will generally cover one complete physical per year. If your primary care can, at that time, refer you to a psychiatrist, it should be covered as a referral, where it would not be as an "optional" treatment.

Any good GP can also likely direct you to public health resources; if you cannot afford a psych out of pocket, I'm guessing you'd qualify for public health.

See a doctor; you just might need to jump through some hoops before you can see a psychiatrist.

 

[anthony]

Hun, it sounds to me that you have been suffering at the hands of a narcissist, covert manipulator or something much worse perhaps.

Where in this thread did member @anon87 come close to making such comments that would infer such a statement to them? The member made two statements, one that violence was present, one that they're actively stalked. You then chime in with complete made-up, manipulative, suggestive rubbish, such as suffering at the hands of a narcissist, covert manipulator.

Wow! Just wow! The shit some people read, interpret, then spit back out on this website these days... just frightens me to my core.

 

[Mystery]

How sad for you Anthony, you're a puzzle indeed and disappointing that you have the perception of a brick.

 

[anon87]

I am rather upset that I did not have the free time to save the now deleted information this morning before leaving to work.

Can you please allow me to decide what is rubbish for myself? But I appreciate the suggestion for a physical although a referral will not be covered. I really like the idea of just going to my doctor. I'm going to see if a GP can possibly point me in other directions or even offer something as simple as a very mild sleeping aid to possibly take the edge off. The good news is today I've learned that I will have other options in about several months. It would just be nice to look up that doctor/(and his book?) sometime as well. Was there something unreasonable or extreme about that doctor from the deleted message?

 

[StarChild]

Can you please allow me to decide what is rubbish for myself?

It hasn't anything to do, with what you assume. It simply has to do with the rules of this forum, to which every new member agrees to abide, by sign up to this forum (after they have read the rules and legals carefully!). In this case, you can find the corresponding rule under: Rules and Legal / Terms simplified / Term #6 = Don't spam, advertise, troll or post anything that violates laws or anothers rights.

Was there something unreasonable or extreme about that doctor from the deleted message?

Hi @anon87, I'll put in a link as to why a part of Mystery's post has been removed:
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Oh and if you or @Mystery want to reread the rules, here you go:
https://www.myptsd.com/help/terms/

 

[Justmehere]

(I deleted info here because I cross posted and the info is no longer relevant in light of new information posted while I was typing my response.)

Violence can lead to PTSD. Stalking can lead to PTSD.

I used to work for an agency that had to handle many insurance companies, and I have never seen a policy written where it requires a PTSD diagnosis before they provide treatment. Have you attempted to see a therapist and been denied coverage for an initial session or assessment? Have you asked a primary care or other doctor to refer you for a psych eval and have they or any therapist or doctor requested authorization for an evaluation or therapy session and been denied? In the US, by law, they have to tell you the reason for denial. Did they deny it and state the reason was that you don't have xyz diagnosis yet? If not, your first step should be to call therapists and find one that takes your insurance and make an appointment and then they will submit a request for authorization. Then if you are denied, there are steps you can take from there.

No matter what, I'm sorry for what you have been through and I hope you can find the help you need and want to heal.