ms spock
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I can only imagine BF-DR, and I can't imagine how hard that has been for you.My abuser was my mthr (who was sadistic), so I would very much like to thank the people here who took the time to mention that not all SA are men. Especially the commenters who haven't been abused by women. Having this validated by other survivors is more healing than you can ever know. I've spent my whole life, until recently, feeling that I wasn't even entitled to be a member of the survivor community - or at least not when I mentioned that it was my mthr who was the abuser.
Yes women have a free pass for sexual abuse in our society because we are all in denial and no one want to acknowledge a mother sexually abusing her children.And I've had the MOST insensitive questions and comments asked when I've disclosed, all trying to mitigate her responsibility, and minimize my trauma. If your abuser is female, or at least that's been my experience, it seems the sympathy and latitude always goes to her no matter how vicious or violent she is.