Childish Tantrums

[Reds]

Do you ever find yourself throwing tantrums in therapy? I get to be so childish around my t, throwing tantrums, sulking and etc.

Does this happen to anyone else and how do you deal with it? I find it embarrassing :(

 

[Pencil]

I would think it is normal. I am usually so rational and adult and controlled that nothing real is ever addressed. I think I'm afraid of letting myself go like that, so in a way I envy you.

 

[Jane.l]

Like pencil I am way too reserved to have a tantrum but I would really like to sometimes . It's probably really healthy to let go of some of the build up of emotion but I guess it makes you feel really bad afterwards. What does your T think ?

My T says anger is good it's just aggression that's bad

 

[PureDogs]

@Reds

Like @Jane.l stated - Anger is good but aggression is bad.

It is ok to show your anger and throw it out because it is not good to hold it inside.

I do throw out my anger uncontrollable few times with lot of tears coming out of my eyes. It indicates that I was in so much pain and could not understand why it has to be me.

Is it easy for me to get it out? No. I mostly kept it to myself and I am well-aware that it is not good thing.

 

[Reds]

I don't think I am aggressive, I just stop talking to her and after the session I will either send her an angry email or text.

She tries to encourage me to take out my anger but when I am angry I just go mute.

Or I just tell her how much I hate her or how much she hates me.

I think being adult and rational is good, I should try it

 

[Chincho]

Whenever my therapist says that she will be away for a few days and will miss one of our appointments, I throw a tantrum.

It happens 4 or 5 times a year, and it happened yesterday. I automatically get on what I call "child mode" and even talk like a child.

She always sits and looks at me when it happens, and says it's okay to be angry. I guess she knows I don't deal very well with abandonement.

 

[maryel42]

I pout in my head. Then I crack up giggling in the car on the way home. Especially if the primary internal comment is "nuh-uh!" to anything just discussed.

"because" and "don't wanna" are close runnerups for giggling. I'd be very embarassed to let it out.