AngealaMarie-not in your head and is very real-no matter what its called or how its caused.Many doctors are stumbling around and just trying to treat symptoms.
20 yrs ago, I joined a CFID group and was very good for me. At the same time, I had been working on Co dependency issues. Initially diagnosed, my doctor suggested seeing a psychiatrist? I was pissed-needless to say-not in my head. Most cfid members had been referred to therapy of some sort and anyry about it as well-I was already participating for Co dependency issues. One thing I noticed though was that as a whole, members of cfids atimately denied and thing psychological (deression, anxiety, any mental health issue) other than mild and brought on by cfid.
clearly denied any family dysfunction or co dependency issues etc.
I am often the one in a group that will throw something on the table. I remember saying that before I got sick with this or discovered cfid, I would burn the candles at both ends, I was a caretaker, a bit of perfectionist, etc. Generally bringing up a topic, at least a couple others would relate-nobody did. Nobody had a stressful divorce, alcoholic relative, oppositional kids-nothing-all lives were good, which of course suggested denial to me.
About 6 years later, my 6 yr old needed a psych test looking for ADD. The examiner was very thorough and spent several hours. She wrote a full page report on the fact that I have a chronic illness that involves fatigue and my daughter drew a picture of her family which was-dad on the computer, this daughter watching tv, the other daughter on the paino, and me vacuuming. Three healthy persons were sitting and relaxing or hobby state, the ill person was doing physical work. This opened my eyes further as to how I was raising children and accepting husbands behavior as well.
Dumb as it sounds, I have a changed and returned back to this spot of serving others. Working on getting out of it now.