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[MysticSkyes]

I have a bad habit of pushing people away and I thought I had solved that with a newer relationship that started 6 months ago (when I say relationship, I mean friendship). I tend to freak out whenever any emotional attachment becomes involved since I had a traumatic experience after I last trusted someone 3 years ago. I have been more in a positive headspace for the last 6 months but I am not entirely sure how to address people after I overcompensate becoming too aggressive after I feel loss of connection. I know it is entirely in my head, but I push people away before a connection even begins. I never used to be this bad, more of a recent thing.

I keep telling myself that I'll just try with the next new person but it gets tiring screwing up each time after time.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

Welcome to the Forum!
I am happy that you have found us! This is a safe place to discuss pretty much anything having to do with PTSD. It IS really hard these days to make friends, it seems like we have such a disconnected society. You don't say where you met this person...whether or not it was in a group situation, or if they are of the opposite sex, think it is harder if they are. It is good to not trust someone until you have gotten to know their personality, likes, and dislikes. It's best to take it slow when meeting ANYONE.

I hope you will explore the site, and see if there are any subject/threads that are helpful or interesting to you.

Blessings of Peace to you,
AKJ

 

[MysticSkyes]

It is more than that. I have always taken years to let people close, it is more that I don't even give them the opportunity to. I will self destruct the friendship before allowing any attachment to form and be unaware of it. Yes it is an opposite sex but most of my close friends are opposite sex. I just keep somehow getting in my own way when it comes to letting anyone close beyond a certain point. I stop and I don't let anyone beyond casual friends no matter how well I know them or I choose people that I know won't suit my needs for friendship.

 

[ladee]

Welcome. Glad you are here.
Do you Have a Therapist that can help you work this out? You are very self aware.
Hopfully with some help , guidance and support you can move a little past that point slowly.
You deserve to be happy and have safe people in your life.
Wishing progress for you.